So, I'm a police officer in obviously a male dominated field. My husband and I just transferred to a smaller town and I'm the only female constable. I am friendly to the "spouses" but for the most parts know their husbands better. I feel like at social gatherings the group of wives isn't happy that I socialize more with the guys than with them. But those are my co- workers. Obviously if I'm good friends with a spouse (and I have one of those here) I will talk a lot with them anytime. I try to talk with everyone but often feel like I'm being interrogated by most of the spouses here.