My son doesn't want to invite an "annoying" child for his birthday party. WWYD?
My son and I were reading through a list of his classmates and deciding if they were invited to his party or not. He is in 1st grade and has already decided that he does NOT want girls at his party. Okay... we can invite all the boys in your class.
BUT when we got to little George my DS said "NO WAY I DO NOT WANT HIM THERE"
I said "well son, it will hurt his feelings if he's not invited. We should send an invite."
Ds said "No, he's loud and doesn't listen and bullys people and gets in to trouble all the time and he annoys me."
I said "Sweetie it's one party and we don't want to be unkind do we?"
DS said "Mom, I am nice to him every day at school. I do not want him to come to my birthday party, he will hurt my feelings. He always hurts my feelings. Can I please have one day with my friends without him there?"
I had no idea what to say... told DS we will fence the subject for now, but we have to decide by Friday.
What on earth would you do? I absolutely DO NOT want to disinclude this little boy. He THINKS my son is his best friend. He loves everyone. But his is a bully. I've seen him steal things from my child in class and break them. He doesn't listen to me or teachers or his parents and my son is right, he will probably end up hurting his feelings. But, this is a 6 year old kid... DS isn't inviting 2 or 3 other boys either because he doesn't know them very well (still very early in the year). But this particular child adores my son and knows his birthday is coming up because we already had a party for him in class.
HELP! What would you do?
EDIT: I can't believe there are over 100 replies! I will read and get to them as quickly as I can! Thank you all for weighing in. I'll update again when I get through all of the replies!