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SO's bro cheating on my friend!WWYD *UPDATE*

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My SO's bro lives with us. He has been dating my childhood friend for 11 years. He is cheating on her right now. My SO told me to stay out of it. I really want to tell her. SO told him that he needs to break up with her if he wants to continue his new relationship. Of course, the pussy wont tell her. He claims he thinks his gf is cheating on him which is complete bullshit. He's just too much of a pansy to tell her that hes done with her. Well my SO and I talked about this and we agreed we will not allow this new girl on our property. We dont want any drama. I have nothing against her, she probably doesnt know that he has a gf. I really dont need to see that shit, i mean its bad enough that im not telling my friend. So No Balls decides to bring new girlfriend over. As polite as i could be, i yelled across the yard " shes not welcome here". Of course he left but i warned my SO that his bro is probably pissed at me.

I know im being a shitty friend so lets just get that out of the way.

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What would you do?

Update:

So after reading all the replies, i decided to tell SO that i was going to tell my friend. I said that we are just as guilty as his brother is if we dont tell her. And that Im sure he'd want to be told if his bro found out i was cheating. He agreed and he said we should tell her. Well about 20 min after we talked, his bro came home. He had been avoiding me. I go outside with the kids and he walks up to me and said that we were right, that he needed to tell my friend that is was over. I said that i was glad he'd do it because she needs to hear it from him, not me. So he said he would do it sunday(we spoke on sat). I warned him that if he didnt do it, i would.

So it sunday and i get a call from his friend and he informs me that No Balls in in jail. He and his buddy decided to go camping,he got drunk and ended up ditching his friend. Have no clue what happened to get his ass landed in jail but there he sits.
How convenient, he had given himself a timeline and failed miserably. That could have been his plan in the first place. Maybe land myself in jail so i dont have to break up with her. . So i called my friend and gave her the news. Of course she is upset. Apparently she has been iffy about their relationship lately and this is giving her the push she needed to get out. We remain friends:)
by on Sep. 12, 2013 at 8:54 PM
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Mom-does-hair
by Gold Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 11:11 PM
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I saw my brother's ex being very friendly with a random dude in a restaurant. I spoke to her, so she know I saw them, she acted like she didn't know me. Was weird. I told my brother. He was pissed, but glad I told him and broke up with her. If they have been dating for 11 years and not married or living together, that's huge red flag to me that he(or she) is not completely committed. That's a long ass time!
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 12, 2013 at 11:14 PM
If you are truly her friend you would tell her. If you don't, expect to lose a friend.
Mom-does-hair
by Gold Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 11:15 PM
I stated the same in my reply. I have no issue with people who are together and don't want to marry, but they usually co habitat after a few years. Your friend should have left after they stopped living together. It didn't work obviously!


Quoting madpenguin33:

Why do you feel the need to put a time limit on a relationship?

Ive been with my SO for almost 7 years now and not getting married anytime soon.



Anyways, those two cant get married because he is still legally married to another chick. He claims she wouldnt sign divorce papers and so here they are, still married. My friend obviously didnt care about enough maybe she doesnt want to marry him, IDK.

Just because he cheated now doesnt mean the whole relationship was shitty. They used to live together but it wasnt working out( they should have split then but whatever, *sighs*)



This guys isnt the greatest IMO but i dont what she sees in him and it just makes me want to tell



her so she can find someone better.



She's only 26, shes has plenty of time to find a new man. Thanks for your opinion.




Quoting JanineDeer:

well................not many like to hear my opinion on long-term "SO" or my BF.... if the guy has not asked you to MARRY HIM after a year and a half.. just WHY is the girl still there?????????

SHE put herself into this situation by lying to herself for ELEVEN YEARS that he is a great guy and OH i LOVE him! whatever.

11 years and no marriage- he's a user.   She was a convenience to him. She allowed it. 

Now she will have to live with the consequences.   I hope she can pick up and leave.  You should tell her why prolong it for years more?  Youth is VERY fleeting.



Louweezymarie
by on Sep. 12, 2013 at 11:15 PM

Oh this is rich. He's still married with a gf AND a piece of ass on the side? What, does he shit golden eggs or something?

Quoting madpenguin33:

Why do you feel the need to put a time limit on a relationship?
Ive been with my SO for almost 7 years now and not getting married anytime soon.

Anyways, those two cant get married because he is still legally married to another chick. He claims she wouldnt sign divorce papers and so here they are, still married. My friend obviously didnt care about enough maybe she doesnt want to marry him, IDK.
Just because he cheated now doesnt mean the whole relationship was shitty. They used to live together but it wasnt working out( they should have split then but whatever, *sighs*)

This guys isnt the greatest IMO but i dont what she sees in him and it just makes me want to tell

her so she can find someone better.

She's only 26, shes has plenty of time to find a new man. Thanks for your opinion.


Quoting JanineDeer:

well................not many like to hear my opinion on long-term "SO" or my BF.... if the guy has not asked you to MARRY HIM after a year and a half.. just WHY is the girl still there?????????

SHE put herself into this situation by lying to herself for ELEVEN YEARS that he is a great guy and OH i LOVE him! whatever.

11 years and no marriage- he's a user.   She was a convenience to him. She allowed it. 

Now she will have to live with the consequences.   I hope she can pick up and leave.  You should tell her why prolong it for years more?  Youth is VERY fleeting.



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Ashley1113
by Ley on Sep. 12, 2013 at 11:17 PM
People do not have to get married to be happy -.-


Quoting JanineDeer:

well................not many like to hear my opinion on long-term "SO" or my BF.... if the guy has not asked you to MARRY HIM after a year and a half.. just WHY is the girl still there?????????

SHE put herself into this situation by lying to herself for ELEVEN YEARS that he is a great guy and OH i LOVE him! whatever.

11 years and no marriage- he's a user.   She was a convenience to him. She allowed it. 

Now she will have to live with the consequences.   I hope she can pick up and leave.  You should tell her why prolong it for years more?  Youth is VERY fleeting.


alyssaravensmom
by Platinum Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 11:19 PM
I'd tell
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Jamie1972
by Ruby Member on Sep. 12, 2013 at 11:23 PM

This is one of those damn if you do and damn if you don't type of situations. 

How long have they been together?

Who is she more apt to believe?

My bff and his wife knew for a week my ex fiancee was cheating on me. They so wanted to tell me but figured I wouldn't believe them. Which at the time I wouldn't hAve. So they gave him a week to talk or they will. If they lost my friendship but saved me from a huge mistake then they do it. I was mad at them for about 5 min and realized the position he put them in and it made me more mad at him.

madpenguin33
by Bronze Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 12:57 AM
Theyve been together for 11 yrs. Since she was like 15. She would probably believe me but i kind of think they are nearing the end of their relationship and this is probably a good way out. But then I cant help but think that maybe she really does love him but their relationship is just in a bad place and telling her could be horrible. My SO doesnt want me to tell because it really isnt our place but also because he lives with us and might cause some tension between his bro and I. My SO did tell him that he needs to break up with my friend but told my SO that he thinks she is cheating on him. He has no proof, i think he is saying that just to justify his cheating.


Quoting Jamie1972:

This is one of those damn if you do and damn if you don't type of situations. 

How long have they been together?

Who is she more apt to believe?

My bff and his wife knew for a week my ex fiancee was cheating on me. They so wanted to tell me but figured I wouldn't believe them. Which at the time I wouldn't hAve. So they gave him a week to talk or they will. If they lost my friendship but saved me from a huge mistake then they do it. I was mad at them for about 5 min and realized the position he put them in and it made me more mad at him.


Jamie1972
by Ruby Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 1:17 AM


Like I said this is a tough spot to b in. Is there a way you could arrange for your friend to catch him cheating? 

Quoting madpenguin33:

Theyve been together for 11 yrs. Since she was like 15. She would probably believe me but i kind of think they are nearing the end of their relationship and this is probably a good way out. But then I cant help but think that maybe she really does love him but their relationship is just in a bad place and telling her could be horrible. My SO doesnt want me to tell because it really isnt our place but also because he lives with us and might cause some tension between his bro and I. My SO did tell him that he needs to break up with my friend but told my SO that he thinks she is cheating on him. He has no proof, i think he is saying that just to justify his cheating.


Quoting Jamie1972:

This is one of those damn if you do and damn if you don't type of situations. 

How long have they been together?

Who is she more apt to believe?

My bff and his wife knew for a week my ex fiancee was cheating on me. They so wanted to tell me but figured I wouldn't believe them. Which at the time I wouldn't hAve. So they gave him a week to talk or they will. If they lost my friendship but saved me from a huge mistake then they do it. I was mad at them for about 5 min and realized the position he put them in and it made me more mad at him.




Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 13, 2013 at 1:33 AM

If he is living in MY house, and cheating on MY best friend, that is MY business.

I would never betray my friend like that.

Quoting Anonymous:

MYOB.


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