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SO's bro cheating on my friend!WWYD *UPDATE*

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My SO's bro lives with us. He has been dating my childhood friend for 11 years. He is cheating on her right now. My SO told me to stay out of it. I really want to tell her. SO told him that he needs to break up with her if he wants to continue his new relationship. Of course, the pussy wont tell her. He claims he thinks his gf is cheating on him which is complete bullshit. He's just too much of a pansy to tell her that hes done with her. Well my SO and I talked about this and we agreed we will not allow this new girl on our property. We dont want any drama. I have nothing against her, she probably doesnt know that he has a gf. I really dont need to see that shit, i mean its bad enough that im not telling my friend. So No Balls decides to bring new girlfriend over. As polite as i could be, i yelled across the yard " shes not welcome here". Of course he left but i warned my SO that his bro is probably pissed at me.

I know im being a shitty friend so lets just get that out of the way.

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What would you do?

Update:

So after reading all the replies, i decided to tell SO that i was going to tell my friend. I said that we are just as guilty as his brother is if we dont tell her. And that Im sure he'd want to be told if his bro found out i was cheating. He agreed and he said we should tell her. Well about 20 min after we talked, his bro came home. He had been avoiding me. I go outside with the kids and he walks up to me and said that we were right, that he needed to tell my friend that is was over. I said that i was glad he'd do it because she needs to hear it from him, not me. So he said he would do it sunday(we spoke on sat). I warned him that if he didnt do it, i would.

So it sunday and i get a call from his friend and he informs me that No Balls in in jail. He and his buddy decided to go camping,he got drunk and ended up ditching his friend. Have no clue what happened to get his ass landed in jail but there he sits.
How convenient, he had given himself a timeline and failed miserably. That could have been his plan in the first place. Maybe land myself in jail so i dont have to break up with her. . So i called my friend and gave her the news. Of course she is upset. Apparently she has been iffy about their relationship lately and this is giving her the push she needed to get out. We remain friends:)
by on Sep. 12, 2013 at 8:54 PM
Replies (41-50):
justone_jen
by Gold Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 5:06 AM
What about a year and seven months?

Quoting JanineDeer:

well................not many like to hear my opinion on long-term "SO" or my BF.... if the guy has not asked you to MARRY HIM after a year and a half.. just WHY is the girl still there?????????

SHE put herself into this situation by lying to herself for ELEVEN YEARS that he is a great guy and OH i LOVE him! whatever.

11 years and no marriage- he's a user.   She was a convenience to him. She allowed it. 

Now she will have to live with the consequences.   I hope she can pick up and leave.  You should tell her why prolong it for years more?  Youth is VERY fleeting.

justone_jen
by Gold Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 5:07 AM
Agree.

Quoting lesalmi:

I would give him an ultimatum. You tell her or I will. If he comes clean and she finds out you knew about it for how long? She is going to hate you just as much.

nolo82
by Platinum Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 5:07 AM
Take them all to Jerry Springer...Duh!

Dude is married, (not pushing for a divorce) lives w/ y'all, & has ANOTHER married GF. I'd tell the friend, but I doubt that it would matter to her since she's been w/ a married man for 11 years.
laineysmum
by Silver Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 5:18 AM
Jesus, 11 year relationship and you haven't found some way to tell her? Tell her.
lucky2Beeme
by Ruby Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 7:10 AM


Quoting Anonymous:

Whaaaat?!?!! You must have been the other woman at some point. Lol

Quoting lucky2Beeme:

OMG you did NOT . Grow up mama. She hasnt done anything wrong. Now you for no reason made her unwelcome and hurt her !!! Way to go  SMFH

NEVER Been the other women.

Surround yourself with people that add to your life not subtract from it.

Mackenzie40
by Platinum Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 7:21 AM
I would give so's brother one warning that he needs to tell her himself about the cheating or I will.
sandy201282
by Bronze Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 7:22 AM

she is minding her own business, which is why she didnt want anything to do with the other woman in her house.


Quoting Anonymous:

MYOB.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 15 on Sep. 13, 2013 at 7:25 AM

Chicks before dicks

TaralynnStewart
by Platinum Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 7:25 AM
He's lives with you
They have been dating for 11yrs, no marriage and are not living together.
Your friend is an idiot
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 16 on Sep. 13, 2013 at 7:26 AM
Yet you have kids with him?

And clearly the relationship was shitty to begin with. She is right. He is a user and sounds like your SO is too.


Quoting madpenguin33:

Why do you feel the need to put a time limit on a relationship?

Ive been with my SO for almost 7 years now and not getting married anytime soon.



Anyways, those two cant get married because he is still legally married to another chick. He claims she wouldnt sign divorce papers and so here they are, still married. My friend obviously didnt care about enough maybe she doesnt want to marry him, IDK.

Just because he cheated now doesnt mean the whole relationship was shitty. They used to live together but it wasnt working out( they should have split then but whatever, *sighs*)



This guys isnt the greatest IMO but i dont what she sees in him and it just makes me want to tell



her so she can find someone better.



She's only 26, shes has plenty of time to find a new man. Thanks for your opinion.




Quoting JanineDeer:

well................not many like to hear my opinion on long-term "SO" or my BF.... if the guy has not asked you to MARRY HIM after a year and a half.. just WHY is the girl still there?????????

SHE put herself into this situation by lying to herself for ELEVEN YEARS that he is a great guy and OH i LOVE him! whatever.

11 years and no marriage- he's a user.   She was a convenience to him. She allowed it. 

Now she will have to live with the consequences.   I hope she can pick up and leave.  You should tell her why prolong it for years more?  Youth is VERY fleeting.



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