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do you allow your child to be tardy for school?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
I do...I have a 6 year second grader that has severe asthma and night time can be the worse for her...So after a typically bad night I will let her sleep in, in the morning till she wakes up on her own and then depending on how she is feeling we get ready and take her to school (1 mile from my house) she is normally only an hour late...I feel a well rested child will do better then a child who is exhausted and the school agree with me...since Dd already misses slot of school each year because of being sick with other health issues this helps keep her from missing more then she needs to...

Would you in my situation?


I guess I need to add more information....dd goes to bed at 7, but there are times when because of her asthma she has issues breathing which in returns causes her to cough non stop and even with her meds it makes it hard to sleep or to stay asleep...the school and dr has agreed that for her it is best if she comes in late instead of not at all...she has a 504 medical plan in place to protect her...dd also has other health issues that put her in and out of the hospital and in those cases the school provided her a tutor...
Last year she was only tardy 4 times..as we work on her health issues and work with her meds and doctors to get everything under control this will change, but for now this is what is best for dd

She always makes up all missed work and she does not disrupt class she knows she is to walk in quietly put stuff in cubby and take her seat...
Posted by Anonymous on Sep. 17, 2013 at 9:58 AM
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Gmgej
by Bronze Member on Sep. 17, 2013 at 10:09 AM

Yes I do sometimes for not feeling well, sometimes for forgotten work, sometimes just because it was a bad morning. 


balagan_imma
by Gold Member on Sep. 17, 2013 at 10:10 AM
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I would probably see what more I could do to keep her asthma better managed. Something there is obviously not working. I've had asthma, moderate to severe since I was 7. I get the asthma thing.

And while you say she is "only" an hour late, that is a lot for a second grader (I've had 3 of them, my youngest is now in 3rd.) They learn so much that is the foundation of their learning in the early grades.

The only time my kids ever had a tardy, other than a doctor's appointment, was the time when my car slid into an embankment during a small snowstorm.

supercarp
by on Sep. 17, 2013 at 10:10 AM

She's only 6, so it's not a big deal. When she gets older this may become a problem.

Seagodess
by Platinum Member on Sep. 17, 2013 at 10:10 AM

 This is a good point. I didn't really think about that.

Sleep is very important, but eventually she will have to suck it up and learn to go without sleep. How long does she get to sleep at night? If she gets 6-7 hours at least she should be fine. How often is it happening? Try putting her to bed earlier. Have you talked to her Dr? If its a daily/simi daily thing, then another solution needs to be found. If its every few weeks, it is probably ok.

Quoting Anonymous:

My children are never tardy. While I agree a well rested child does better when she's an adult this type of thing isn't going to keep her employed.  I find it important to teach my children how to preform regardless of illness or lack of rest. 


 

Sister_Someone
by Rachel on Sep. 17, 2013 at 10:10 AM

Back when it was my responsibility, I never "let" my son be late. I made sure we were both up and ready in time.

Now that he's older, he knows late is not an option. I drive him, I leave at the same time every morning and he knows that. It's his responsibility to wake himself up and be ready in time. If he's not in my car by the time I leave, I consider his getting to school not my problem. So, he's either on time, or he's not going to school at all and I won't be writing a note for that.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 17, 2013 at 10:11 AM
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As she grows are you going to continue to allow her to sleep in if she doesn't get a good nights sleep or will you begin to teach her how to function with little rest? There are no 504 plans in the professional work force. When will you no longer allow for her restless night sleep to be an excuse for tardiness?

Quoting Anonymous:

It has nothing to do with going to bed early...she goes to bed at 7 pm...however there are times her asthma issues keep her from sleeping and she doesn't get a good night's sleep...she is in 2nd grade so yes it is a tardy for her not an absent......the school is aware and is ok with it and she has a 504 medical plan that protects her and I so no she can't get in trouble


Quoting Anonymous:

An hour late isn't tardy. That's absent for an entire class and probably tardy to the second. Put her in bed earlier. The school may agree with you but the law doesn't and eventually, with that many absences, she will be truant.



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 17, 2013 at 10:12 AM
Same here! Now that the year is progressing the line is moving along faster but I don't think we should be tardy for the first month! I'm not late!


Quoting ratchetlee:

NO!  We do everything we can to NOT be tardy.

They've changed the car line rules at the school and so it takes me 20 minutes to drop off the kids now..... and my son (2nd grade) has been counted tardy twice because of the blasted car line.... I had to go and let them know that if I get in the car line at 7:40 and my car doesn't get to the drop-off area until 8:02... my kid is NOT tardy!!!!!!  UGH!

My girls (K and 4th), ironically enough, get there at the same time as my son and they have never been counted tardy!!!!!!!!!!!


There have been times that my child has had a bad night, so I may let them sleep a bit and see how they're doing before taking them to school....but its not a regular occurance.  


KyliesMom5
by Platinum Member on Sep. 17, 2013 at 10:13 AM

 My daughter actually got in trouble this morning for not staying on track which forced us to leave the house late.  We made it before the tardy bell but not by much.

ashley9603
by RunningMomma on Sep. 17, 2013 at 10:13 AM

There is no excuse for my dd to be late.It will make her think if I let her slack off in that area,I will let her slide in  other areas as well.

notjstasocermom
by Ruby Member on Sep. 17, 2013 at 10:14 AM

no very irresponsible imo.

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