So I watch the Real Housewive's of New Jersey and I know that Melissa Gorga wrote a book about marriage. I read a few free excerpts on my phone --- Oh my, I'm so glad I never bought this book.
So she says her husband "expects certain things from her because this shows respect"
Here are the certain things:
To be greeted at the door with a hug, kiss and a smile
A home-cooked dinner in a well-kept house with fresh and clean kids
Sex 3-5 times a week
She also said that she is "not some throwback desperate housewife who sits around all day in a ratty moomoo waiting for her husband to come home and validate her existance. On Housewives do you see me looking a wreck, hair a mess, bitching and moaning? No. Hey, I wax my mustace, I rock a Jimmy Choo"
Oh my lord...
Yes, every marriage is different and this is definatley NOT how my marriage works! We have respect for eachother but it's not because I dress up, keep the house clean or cook dinner or because dh takes out the trash or works his ass off at work. Our respect comes from how we treat eachother. But don't get me wrong - I appreciate how hard dh works and vice versa.
If I greeted my husband at the door he would be like, "What the hell are you doing"
Yeah I cook dinner but some nights he will say, "why bother cooking, let's go out somewhere"
The house is kept up and clean, the kids get bathed daily and have clean clothes but they are also kids who play outside and get dirty. Dh and I are really organized people. While he does help out around the house, I am a sahm with both kids out of the house until 4:00 M-F so I have no reason for it to be dirty or disorganized.
As for sex, well.. I can only do it 1 maybe 2 times a week. Thankfully I have a very understanding and patient husband who understands that I have a medical condition that affects me gynecologically and it can be painful and uncomfortable for me to do it more than once or twice a week.
Anyway - How does your marriage work?