I see all these posts about spanking and not spanking, and I really don't see how one person decides to punish their kids should influence another person. Why make a person try to feel bad for disciplining their children in a form they see works best for their child. I don't think every child needs spanking, but I do think that some children spanking works well for them. I've seen cases in which spanking is overused, or not done in a manner benefitting the child, and I completely disagree with that. I've seen cases where children who probably could use a good spanking run amuck because their parents are too worried about their "image" and don'twant to be the spanking type. I don't think you should let someone influence the way you discipline your children. I don't think you should base your decision on how to punish multiple kids based on how one child does with certain punishments. Each child has his own way of learning. Each child has a way of discipline that works for them.