and i have no idea what to do. i dont like when ANY kid acts like this, boy or girl. the fact that he's acting like this, knowing i dont really 'approve' makes me more frustrated...
but he's been crying at the drop of a hat.... or he thinks he's the big man on campus and when i parent him (which i do EVERY TIME dont get me wrong), he throws the HUGEST fit.... i dont want to call it a 'hissy fit'... but thats what i think of when i see it. he throws his arms around, wiggling his body, making faces... sometimes even getting on the floor/ground and throwing it there- at this point, he starts crying if he hasnt already.
as much as i want to say, 'get up, act like a man/kid'-- i dont. i just tell him he needs to stop behaving in this way. he'll FORCE himself to cry when he doesn't get his way, or when he has to do his homework or something he doesnt want to do... the i'm gonna open my mouth, hold my breath til my face turns red and eventually i'll start fake crying until real tears go down my face type of forced cry.
he's not a manly-boy. he doesnt like sports, doesnt like to run (yes, i know- pointless in this post, but it does kinda upset me that he doesnt have an interest that i can find other than video games).
i'm scared to put him in any type of sport b/c back when i did (during the summertime), he threw his types of 'fits' and the coach would let him off on whatever he had to do. he's a HUGE complainer when it comes to physical activities (<-- this is semi-normal, for the last year).
i'm at a loss on what to do. idk how to handle his temper tantrums. i dont spank- not b/c i'm against it, but b/c it doesnt phase him. (the only man in our lives- NOT my boyfriend or anything- said i need to use a belt.. it's not affecting him b/c my hand doesnt hit him hard enough... no thanks!). he's not around any other man (the man i said above comes around once in a blue moon).
did i fail him somehow, by being the only person in his life? did i let him get away with something and i just dont see/know it? (he throws his fits- that i ignore- then i make him do whatever hes' supposed to do)
i'm positive something is going on with that little mind of his, but either he doesnt know what it is, or he's just not telling me.