I have three kids my fourth on the way. I have been with the same person for 11 years. We however are not married and it feels like constantly we get strange looks or comments from friends, family and sometimes strangers because of it.
Why is it so bad that we didn't want to get married? We rent a home. The same place we have for 9 years. Our cars are paid off and we each have one and neither of us have any credit card debt. If we split up the only thing we have to do is go to court for custody matters which we would be agreeable about for the sake of the children.
I don't see where being married changed anything if I woke up tomorrow married instead of not married nothing would be different but my last name.