A few days ago a neighbor girl and her friend came and asked my son to play outdoors with them. He didn't want to, telling me they're mean. I talked him into it thinking maybe this time it would be different. Instead he came home sobbing and angry at me for talking him into playing with them.
She just came over asking for him to play. I told her he didn't want to play with her because last time she and the other girl were picking on him. She said he knew they were just playing around. I told her I didn't think so. His feelings were really hurt; he came home 'crying very hard'. I told her to think about how her words and actions affect others next time and if she can start being nice maybe he'll want to start playing with her again.
And FWIW, I did talk to the mother the day this happened, and she laughed it off.
There's my confession. I don't feel bad.