There is another post on here about a mother who is upset about MIL giving her infant candy. It got me thinking about something that happened this weekend. I was at my parent's house, and my Dsm told my dd that she can circumvent the rules and what I say, because she is the grandma. This has been a problem since day one. They give her things I say not to, let her run wild, and openly disrespect me as her mother, right in front of her.
So my question is, is this acceptable grandma behavior? Is it ok to try to "trump" mom? I almost feel like she is trying to be a mother figure more than a grandmother... I think we need to talk about it, but I hate confrontation, and avoid it at all costs.