He wants me to go to the judge, say he's been babysitting (not true), wanting to form a relationship with ds (if actions speak louder than words, this isn't true either), and to forgive him for the back support and ask to lower the amount.
I got laid off and while I don't NEED the money, it's only because my dad is helping me. I've never depended on the money, cuz well, I never got it. I just learned to deal without it...
But it's ds' money. Without my dad, even with a job, I doubt I'd be able to give him every basic need without some type of help (whether cs or pa).
I guess my question is, would you forgive the past amount? Or just let the back support stay there?
Either way, it'll be lowered to either $50/month or nothing at all- IF he actually takes the time to go to court for it.... it could be that he wants me to do all the work, ask for it lowered/forgiven so he doesn't have to do anything.
Edit- he was selling drugs and stealing to support himself when he wasn't working a legit job. He got caught, the courts added on non support, so he has been to prison for not paying. He got out and really hasn't done much. Honestly, I wouldn't mind lowering the support for when he was locked up (which was still at $300), if they could backtrack that. But that's as far as I'd be willing to g.
I decided to not forgive the past amount. And if he files for lower support, I won't fight it- I can't. You can't get money from a turnip or whatever lol. I just need to find a way to tell him without him throwing a bitch fit at me and saying it'll be my fault when he goes back to prison.
Thing is, he's working under the table now (from what he says- nagging $30/day). Has he asked if I need help- nope. Ds has a bday coming up, he has school fees due the beginning of November. I think I'm gonna ask him for hep for those things first, then when he says no- cuz he will- explain I'm not forgiving the past cuz I can't even depend on him financially right now, let alone in any other way for ds .