DH shut the F up, you missed the birth of our child, your fault, stop complaining.
Two weeks ago, I had mine and DH's second child. He was at work when I went into labor but I called him and told him to meet me at the hospital when he got off. I got to the hospital at 6 pm and was 5 cm dilated. He got off of work at 7 pm and could have been at the hospital by 7:30. BUT his mom called him and begged him to pick her up on the way because she "had no other way to get there and didn't want to wait till the next day when he could come get her to see the baby". She is 58 and doesn't drive, just never has. They used to live in NY where this was not a problem but now we live in a small town where it is.
Anyway, it was an hour out of his way to get her (half an hour there, half just to get back to his work where he started) and he knew I was 7 cm by the time he got off work but, despite my telling him he wouldn't likely have time to go get her (and that I really didn't want her to come while I was giving birth because I didn't want her in the room), despite the fact that I said we could call her a cab and we would pay for it, he went and got her. I had the baby at 8:02 pm. He didn't show up until 8:40.
Now he won't stop whining about how he missed the birth and how sad he is about it. I am sick of hearing it. He almost acts like he is trying to guilt trip me, like I should have held the baby in or something. I mean basically, he chose not to make it there on time, even if he didn't know that he wouldn't make it there on time, why take the risk? He has said that I should have picked her up on the way to the hospital as it was only 10 minutes out of my way. Well I didn't know how long I had so I wasn't going to make unnecessary stops and as I said, I didn't really feel the need for her to be there. My mom was there, yes, because she drove me to the hospital (with my DD, our first child)
I mean I am the one who should be pissed, I wanted him there and I feel like he chose getting his mother there earlier then she would be been over being there at the birth.