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So another birthday has passed apparently below the radar. My family of course helped me to celebrate over the miles, and while that is unbelievably appreciated, its not the same as being there with them--the few people who actually *want* to celebrate my birthday with no strings attached. My mother-in-law unceremoniously dumps a rotisserie chicken, peaches, and a chocolate cake thing on the counter when she got home from work and then disappears. I didn't get any acknowledgment from the in-laws side of the family, which is peculiar and out of the norm (they normally send the generic cards, but its an acknowledgement). Several close friends who were at one point and time my everything let the day pass by. One of my sisters in law went out of her way to make me feel like a horrible person. The other went out of her way to make me feel special, which was appreciated more than she knows.

This is a little bit of self-pity, mind you, but its also a rather important question. What am I doing wrong that the people who should be closest to me do not feel the need to let me know that they remember me and that I am or have been that important to them? What can I do to change this? This is not a recent trend, either. More of an everyday normal thing. No matter how much effort I invest into my relationships and their special days, I have never seen a return. (Its not like Facebook doesn't already advertise people's birthdays enough.)

From this information that I have gathered, I can only come to one conclusion. I really am as insignificant as I think I am. Maybe the answer is to stop putting effort into these relationships since they are obviously not what I have built them up in my mind to be.

I have to be doing something tragically, terribly wrong. Maybe I'm not communicating to these people that these are what my needs are.

I don't know. I don't know what to do anymore. Except be me and set my self up for disappointment time and again.

by on Sep. 29, 2013 at 4:42 AM
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drowningmama
by Platinum Member on Sep. 29, 2013 at 5:13 AM

I dont know?  I dont speak to my inlaws or celebrate my birthday.  No one really celebrates burthdays as an adult around here.

HippiPotPi419
by on Sep. 29, 2013 at 5:21 AM

Quoting 504bbymami:

Really? Really??could you be anymore melodramatic ?

I can think of nothing else to say:

You got plenty enough attention for your bday. This is what happens when we grow up. Did you want pin the tail on the donkey and a clown to come paint your face?

Geez just be happy your bday was even acknowledged

God, you are so hateful and childish. Eve if she is being melodramatic, you are being an ass, which is much worse. Now I see why no one on here likes you. I seem to recall you being a little melodramatic a time or two yourself.
504bbymami
by Emerald Member on Sep. 29, 2013 at 5:24 AM
This is not "why" everyone hates me. I never used to be that way. I never gave anyone a reason to dislike me. I'm this way now because I got tired of being ms nice lady and always getting shit on.


Quoting HippiPotPi419:



Quoting 504bbymami:

Really? Really??could you be anymore melodramatic ?

I can think of nothing else to say:

You got plenty enough attention for your bday. This is what happens when we grow up. Did you want pin the tail on the donkey and a clown to come paint your face?

Geez just be happy your bday was even acknowledged


God, you are so hateful and childish. Eve if she is being melodramatic, you are being an ass, which is much worse. Now I see why no one on here likes you. I seem to recall you being a little melodramatic a time or two yourself.

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xomrs.chase
by Ruby Member on Sep. 29, 2013 at 5:25 AM
1 mom liked this
Now that song is in my head
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Sep. 29, 2013 at 5:26 AM
Op did nothing to you... you're just making an ass out of yourself

Quoting 504bbymami:

This is not "why" everyone hates me. I never used to be that way. I never gave anyone a reason to dislike me. I'm this way now because I got tired of being ms nice lady and always getting shit on.




Quoting HippiPotPi419:




Quoting 504bbymami:

Really? Really??could you be anymore melodramatic ?

I can think of nothing else to say:

You got plenty enough attention for your bday. This is what happens when we grow up. Did you want pin the tail on the donkey and a clown to come paint your face?

Geez just be happy your bday was even acknowledged



God, you are so hateful and childish. Eve if she is being melodramatic, you are being an ass, which is much worse. Now I see why no one on here likes you. I seem to recall you being a little melodramatic a time or two yourself.

HippiPotPi419
by on Sep. 29, 2013 at 5:27 AM

Quoting 504bbymami:

This is not "why" everyone hates me. I never used to be that way. I never gave anyone a reason to dislike me. I'm this way now because I got tired of being ms nice lady and always getting shit on.


Quoting HippiPotPi419:



Quoting 504bbymami:

Really? Really??could you be anymore melodramatic ?

I can think of nothing else to say:

You got plenty enough attention for your bday. This is what happens when we grow up. Did you want pin the tail on the donkey and a clown to come paint your face?

Geez just be happy your bday was even acknowledged


God, you are so hateful and childish. Eve if she is being melodramatic, you are being an ass, which is much worse. Now I see why no one on here likes you. I seem to recall you being a little melodramatic a time or two yourself.


So Cafemom jaded you? Who's being melodramatic now? ;)
malachitemoon
by on Sep. 29, 2013 at 5:28 AM

At least its a good song. ;)


Quoting xomrs.chase:

Now that song is in my head



xomrs.chase
by Ruby Member on Sep. 29, 2013 at 5:30 AM
Indeed. I love velvet revolver

Quoting malachitemoon:

At least its a good song. ;)



Quoting xomrs.chase:

Now that song is in my head




504bbymami
by Emerald Member on Sep. 29, 2013 at 5:30 AM
Lmfao cafemom?? No.


Quoting HippiPotPi419:



Quoting 504bbymami:

This is not "why" everyone hates me. I never used to be that way. I never gave anyone a reason to dislike me. I'm this way now because I got tired of being ms nice lady and always getting shit on.





Quoting HippiPotPi419:




Quoting 504bbymami:

Really? Really??could you be anymore melodramatic ?

I can think of nothing else to say:

You got plenty enough attention for your bday. This is what happens when we grow up. Did you want pin the tail on the donkey and a clown to come paint your face?

Geez just be happy your bday was even acknowledged



God, you are so hateful and childish. Eve if she is being melodramatic, you are being an ass, which is much worse. Now I see why no one on here likes you. I seem to recall you being a little melodramatic a time or two yourself.




So Cafemom jaded you? Who's being melodramatic now? ;)

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TrouserMouse
by on Sep. 29, 2013 at 5:33 AM
Birthdays turn into almost "just another day" as you age. People assume that it is not a big deal anymore. Many people don't want a lot of acknowledgement that they are getting older. It isn't anything you are doing or anything that others aren't doing. It is just the way it is.
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