Stay home then leave day after christmas
go to TX
invite ILs to come here
Stay home and keep our AGREED upon plan
Total Votes: 212
Total Votes: 212
Okay so this will be our first Christmas as parents. When our son was born in February I told DH that I wanted our first Christmas to be just us. He said ok I want that too.
Today his parents said they'll pay for us to come to TX if we spend Christmas with them. He is mad because I said I don't want to go for Christmas. I told him we could go before or after or maybe even thanksgiving, but this is our first Christmas as parents and it's special and I don't want to share it with anyone. (Not even my parents who live 25 minutes away much less stay halfway across the country). He flew off the handle and said I was selfish. In the two years we've been together he has never wanted to go to TX to be with his family, and he way his mom is I know it's because she wants to be a part of our son's first Christmas. I don't have a problem with that sentiment but I really just want it to be our immediate family. I even offered that we could fly down the day after Christmas and spend NYE down there, but that wasn't good enough. He started talking about how just because I don't have a big family doesn't mean we have to be hermits for Christmas. I was offended by that. I didn't say I didn't want to go at all. I just said Christmas DAY I wanted just for our family.
I don't think I am being unfair, but DH really thinks I am. So. What do you guys think? Do you think day after Christmas is ok? That way we still celebrate the holiday with his parents, siblings, and aunt/uncle, but the day of is just for our family.