A little back story: My exh and I meet 7 yrs ago and had two Ds and a dd together. He never really seemed to into his family and always seemed to have more important things to do then spend time with us. Never did one on one time with any of his children when we where together. So two years ago my now exh kicked me and our three children out of the house a month after my dd was born. He tried to keep me on the back burner but I got sick of the games and filed for a divorce. When we first split he never really saw the kids or even asked about them. Until I got into another relationship then we finally came to a agreement Feb of last yr that he would take them every other weekend and one month in the summer. Went great for a while. The Feb of this year dd 1yr old comes home with bruises all over her face. I call ss and there is a investigation. In the end the can't prove out of the 15 that live in his house who did it. So we do a chips order on my dd. And he also never asked to see the 3months that the investigation was going on. When we went to court afterward I ask if he could look me in the face and say his gf did not do that to my dd. He said no he couldn't he knew her temper and jealousy. Well I fought tooth and nail not to let them go back If she was going to be around still. Well he lied said they wherent together any longer so they finally aloud him to take them in the end of April. Well in June they went for the monthly visit and my dd at 22 months was murdered at the hands of the gf that was not suppose to be in the picture. Well since then he has not seen our two ds. They where witness to their sisters murder. He really never has asked to see them or gone out of his way, except once, to Ccsee his boys at all. Our DSs never ask or want to see him either. So tomorrow I go talk to a lawyer about visitation. She wants to temporarily cancel his visitations till his chips order in another county for his daughter with the murderer is over then he has to take me back to court to get supervised visits in order.
My boys are having Tons of mental and behavioral problems since it is all happened and I just don't know if see him would help or not.
I guess what I am asking is should I suspend all visits or do supervised visits now too?
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