My SO has suddenly decided he is not okay with us not being married as we were told he couldn't adopt my dd if we aren't married. (She hasn't seen/spoken to her own father since she was three months old when he signed away his rights) we also have a dd together.
So here is the problem with all of this so far no problem situation. My bio father (who I didn't meet until I was 15 and have only seen 3 times since then) says he should walk me down the aisle and give me away, my step dad thinks he should (my mom agrees), and I want my step brother (much older and really the only male adult figure I have ever looked up to) to do it but everyone says it inappropriate.
So what do I do? What would you all do?
****added note: we also discussed having it be my son. While he can't adopt my son because his father does have rights I thought that would be a way to make him feel important in it all. And before anyone asks yes I have 3 kids with 3 different men. One of whom I was married to before in a secret court house wedding with no family present or party because my family forbid it. I should have listened.