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How long has it been since you had sex with your husband?

Anonymous
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I haven't had sex with him since May 2012. Yes, that's 2012. :(
We've been married since 2006 and this is the longest we have ever gone without doing it. As time went on the time between sex grew and grew. How terrible is this? Is this normal?

Edit***
To answer some of the questions...
Yeah we used to talk about it. Well I was the one always bringing it up. He always had an excuse for not having sex (someone might hear us, too tired, it's late)
I've begged and cried for sex. I tried everything I could to get his attention (sexy lingerie, costumes, porn, massages).
The problem began right before we got married in 2006 and only got worse. I should have known things were going to get bad when we didn't even hav sex on our honeymoon. We've been together since 2002 and have 3 kids.
I even resorted to telling him that if he wouldn't have sex with me I was going to cheat on him. He never tried to stop me.
I've begged for a divorce but he won't agree. His family is soo extremely religious. Idk how much that has to do with it. I've stuck it out this long for the kids and just to not look bad to my family. How can I admit to my family that I wanted a divorce because he won't touch me? To me, it makes me sound selfish.
I'm soo miserable though. We don't even sleep in the same room anymore.
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 3, 2013 at 2:49 AM
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Connorsmommy13
by Silver Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 2:50 AM
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9 years...we are separted and I have no idea where he is and if he came near me with that thing I would likely chop it off!

laineysmum
by Silver Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 2:50 AM
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What's going on?

It's normal if there is a medical or emotional reason this is happening and you are keeping the lines of communication open and connecting in other emotionally intimate ways. 

If not, sorry girl.. that ain't normal. 

ETA: DH and I had sex last night. We have had dry spells for sure, lasting weeks or even a few months before. It was ROUGH but there were reasons it was happening (er, not happening..) and we were able to support each other and get through it. Now we are hotter than ever for each other, and closer than ever for what we went through. Good luck OP. 


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lovinmykiddo07
by Ruby Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 2:51 AM

A couple weeks. We've both been sick. :/

The longest we've ever gone was 11 months, due to deployment.

imandia4
by Gold Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 2:51 AM

 I am not married. I had sex 5 months ago though. And I am keeping it that wat way. Fuck sex!! When I was married we did have less sex towards the end. I was only married 4 years though.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 3, 2013 at 2:53 AM

At least as long as you. I love him, he loves me, no one's cheating...he's just not a physical guy. It drove me nearly crazy for a while, but now it's just one of his quirks. I get lots of hugs, but not much else.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 3, 2013 at 2:53 AM
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2 weeks and before then it was a month.  Ever since we were trying for our first and I was tracking my fertility, it became something I tracked as well.  He and I have been oil & water lately so Im not too surprised by the infrequency of it.  Over a year and I would just divorce given that you may be better off as just being friends.  Intimacy is an important part of marriage in my opinion.

PeacefulLotus
by on Oct. 3, 2013 at 2:54 AM
6 weeks currently. We've gone 13 months.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Oct. 3, 2013 at 2:54 AM
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Depends on your definition. We both had an orgasm an hour ago. No penetration. Yesterday we had anal but no vaginal. About 5 days for just regular sex.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Oct. 3, 2013 at 2:54 AM
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5 1/2 hours ago.  

Tairy_Hesticles
by on Oct. 3, 2013 at 2:55 AM
About 3 hours ago.

Maybe you should get some help.
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