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Have you ever been the victim of revenge porn?

Posted by on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:31 AM
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Exes Who Get Revenge in This Disgusting Way Could Be Sent to Prison

by Kiri Blakeley

Remember when you used to get revenge on your ex by slashing his tires or calling and hanging up on her? Stuff like that? Well, those days have given way to these free-for-all Interwebs days of revenge blogs, revenge viral videos, and worst of all, revenge porn! Revenge porn is when nude photos or even sexual videos you made with someone you trusted -- and presumably were married to or dating -- suddenly gets plastered on some website set up specifically for the purpose of posting revenge porn. Yeah, apparently there are a lot of sad people out there who not only want to hurt the person they used to love this way, but who want to SEE someone hurting the one they love this way. But now there's something that hopefully will put a big dent in this kind of twisted, childish behavior. The law!

Revenge porn is now illegal. At least in California. (California has also signed into law a bill that says minors can permanently delete their social media ravings.)

In that state, it is now a misdemeanor to post naked pictures of someone else online without permission with the intent of causing emotional distress or humiliation. The ex (or anyone) who does this can face up to six months in prison and a $1,000 fine.

Before this, victims could sue, but that's something that costs time and money. This way, the cops can handle them!

Of course, you'd have to be able to prove who uploaded the photos, something that may not always be easy to do and could take up just as much time as a lawsuit. And there's little chance first time offenders would spend much time in jail. Which leaves a possible $1,000 fine -- something a lot of perps would probably consider a fair price for humiliating their ex.

Every state should get behind the idea of this law, however. One, Florida, skuttled a similar law of First Amendment considerations. And Missouri rejected one because of free speech rights.

Seriously? How do you have the "right" to post naked pics of anyone? Baffling.

It's easy to say to never let anyone take a naked pic of you -- or to never, ever take one of yourself and share it -- but it's difficult to imagine taking a shower one morning and your honey lovingly says, "Oh, you look beautiful, let me snap a pic," and you're all, "F you!!" Most of us would be flattered. As for videos? Well, not my thing, but a lot of people are into it. Not to mention that someone can videotape you without your knowledge.

Solution? Never EVER let your face be shown in naked pics. And check to make sure. Then at least you've got plausible deniability.

Have you ever been the victim of revenge porn?

by on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:31 AM
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by the sauce is boss on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:37 AM
14 moms liked this

I have not. But if something happened between hubs and I and he did that (Im sure he wouldnt), I would be looking into revenge ima cut your balls off...Fuck the police... Mama's got this one!

by Anonymous 1 on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:38 AM
by Ruby Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:38 AM
I haven't. That is awful.
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:38 AM

nope never

by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:40 AM
Good. I'm glad people can be prosecuted now.
by Anonymous 4 on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:40 AM
6 moms liked this

 I am not stupid enough to allow anyone to tape me having sex, take nude pictures or anything of that nature. Anything could happen from a break in to a break up. I find people who do this to be kind of dumb, honestly. To have the expectation it will stay private? lol

by on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:41 AM

My ex threatened to send a video to my mom since she had her cell phone number. Dick.

by Anonymous 5 on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:44 AM

Close, I know someone who hacked my email and took my pictures then sent a few to myself and my now dh as proof that she had them. And told a lot of people on a different site she was on that all she wanted to do when dh and I got married was to take lots of copies of them and put them up where he worked, where we were getting married and anywhere else my new in-laws might see them. And these other people encouraged her to actually do it. Thankfully she wasn't that stupid because she would have landed her ass in jail over it. 

by Anonymous 6 on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:47 AM
Well you know what could happen if you send nude pics or videos to someone else's phone so no sympathy from me. I probably have a picture or two floating around somewhere since I have pissed an ex or two off.
by Mrs. Tennant on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:52 AM

 No, I've only been with my husband though.

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