Controversy Alert: I just scrolled past a post on my Facebook newsfeed and while I was compelled to respond to the post, I thought better of it, due to the sensitive nature and the hormones involved. So instead, I will just repost the content, and my thoughts about it here. So here is the post:
"The thought of going back to work and leaving my baby has me feeling absolutely ill. I'm getting desperate! I want to get in the car and drive away with her so nobody can find me and we can stay together. I think it's just cruel that mommies can't stay home and raise their babies like we are supposed to. The government is handing out tons of $ to people who don't need/deserve it, yet there is nothing in place to help establish a good foundation for our children and help hard working GOOD moms stay home with their babies for longer than 12 weeks. It feels like someone's pulling my guts out and I haven't even left her yet. ~Commenter: I agree! Why can't we be like European country's that allow mothers to stay home for two years or more! FMLA is a joke!"
Let me preface with this: I AM A MOM. I have 3 children. OK, moving on. I do not at all understand entitlement. Entitlement of any kind. I understand and have every desire to help the truly helpless. I believe in caring for the sick, the elderly, the disabled. I believe in social programs to give a boost to someone to get back on their feet so they can support themselves. However, what I see here is just a continuation of a total entitlement mentality. I decided to have children because I wanted them, I cannot afford to stay at home, therefore, it's the government's responsibility to make it so I can stay home. Take money away from the people who don't deserve it (I guess she is referring to those on other entitlement programs...) so they can fund MY entitlement program.
Newsflash: No one said you had to have children. No one made you have them at that particular point in your life. Is it your "right" to have children, should you want them? Absolutely! But along with that right, is the right to support yourself and them. Please, someone help me understand how we turned into a nation of entitled people. It boggles my mind beyond concise words, how anyone (not just her) can possibly TRULY believe that others (government and tax payers) are responsible for funding their personal decisions.
My friends, if you can't afford kids, don't get pregnant. Sure accidents happen. And there are resources in place for the hardship of such a thing. Boyfriends leave pregnant girlfriends, leaving them alone to carry the weight. There are available resources. But at some point, you have to suck up some poor decisions, or imperfect life situations and get on with life the best way you can. As is, our government won't let your children, or you, starve. But damn, for someone to go so far as to say that since we chose to have kids, our government owes us the right to stay home with them "like we should" makes my skin crawl. If one felt that home is where they should stay once they have kids, one should make provisions for that reality prior to having kids.
I am sure this will piss some people off, and some will think I am cold hearted. I just believe in personal accountability in all situations. Or maybe we could just raise the debt ceiling and let all reproducing women stay home.
Vent over... for now. :)