On another post a mom said she was depressed and not having sex with her DH and he got angry and said they need to have sex or get a divorce. I saw comments that were enraged that he thinks sex is more important than her feelings. I was thinking about it though. How many of you women think that your DH only wants sex because it feels good and no other reason? How many would be upset or pissed if he said something like that and think that he only wants to fuck? I have been on the other side of the coin. In no way am I a nympho. But my husband went through a time of depression. He did not want to be touched, he didn't want sex. I was understanding. Then I was sad that we were not being close and intimate. Then I was just pissed off because it seemed like he didn't care enough about me to get help so he could be intimate with me again. I totally understand her husbands side. And I know it is thought that women are more emotional so you are probably thinking Well she just wanted to be close. No. I wanted that bond from having sex as well. I could get myself off all I wanted. But that got old. I wanted to have that feeling with my husband, and to give him those feelings as well. I ended up blowing up at him, and even left for a few weeks.
He did finally get the help he needed. And when talking about it to our marriage counselor after the counselor told me that even men that are going through it with their wives feel the same as I did. The depressed wife feels that the husband only wants her to suck it up and stop moping so he can fuck someone. But that is not true. That husbands want the same closeness and intimacy as we do and how much more close can you get than through having sex? So they go through the same things as I did, the trying to help, the sadness, the feeling sorry for themselves, the anger. Just because you think that sex is just a way to get off to men, that is not true. Especially in a long term relationship. If he just wanted to cum then he would not be married to you and would be getting off with as many women as possible.