My daughter got pregnant at 15 years old and gave me guardianship of her son, willingly, because she wasn't able to handle it and school. Shes now 19 and Kaydan is 4. Kaydan knows that Alayna is his mom, and i'm grandma. For the first 2 years of Kaydan's life; Alayna was on hardcore drugs (marijuana) and anorexic. She was partying, being a wild out of control teenager. She met a man 2 years ago and straightend up her life. Shes lived with us the entire time tho. Now she is getting her own apartment and having another baby. Engaged and doing great. But she mentioned Kaydan moving back in with them...Not even asked. Just assumed that Kaydan would be moving in with them. I'm not okay with that. I understand biologically Kaydan is hers, but i've raised him for 4 years. He can know that Alayna is mommy but he needs to stay living with me. I haven't told her that Kaydan will not be moving in with them...However I am positive it will not go well. Shes already told Kaydan and got him all excited. I'm being selfish, but she has 20+ years of childbearing age. I can't have anymore and my youngest "baby" (aside from Kaydan) is 15.
I don't know if I can go about getting permanent guardianship (its currently temporary) or what...I just don't think its fair she pawns him off on me for four years and then comes back and says, hey...I want my kid back.
It's not how it works with adoption. I love my daughter and i'm glad shes doing better now, but Kaydan is mine and my husbands son. Any advice on the situation would be greatly appreciated.