ETA: I'm not supposed to grill dd on her time at dads house. I don't grill her but I do ask her if Sheehan fun at dads which leads to a one word answer so I then ask well what did you do? For the last few weeks she's been telling me she lives with daddy and this other woman. I'm going to try for full custody when she's in kindergarten cause her father is a very controlling and verbally abusive man. we HATES leaving with him. She screams that she wants to go with him. She tells me she doesn't like him. When any member of his family picks her up she's happy to go but not dad. I've finally found a way to get her to go without making a scene but now that they moved its stopped working.