I lived several states away from most of my family for the better part of my adult years. I went out-of-state for college and never moved back.
Over the last 10 years, several of my cousins have graduated from high school or college, gotten married, and had babies. I've been invited to most celebrations, but as I was single and struggling to pay off school loans, I was never much for a gift. I did always send a card. My DH and I got married when our daughter was a year old, so we didn't have a big wedding or baby shower for everyone (2,000 miles away from both of our families. My good friend from college threw me a shower with just a few close friends where we lived).
I moved back to the area I grew up in last year after I was hired for a very good job. I make excellent money now. My husband makes excellent money too, but he can work from anywhere.
One of my cousins, the last of four kids, got married last weekend. I was able to attend the wedding and gave him and his bride a gift of $150. My aunt, who I am not very close to, called me this morning and said while it was nice to have given a generous amount, it was unfair that I have never considered her other children's celebrations. She said that she knows we have money and should make the proper restitution.
I was shocked. Her kids are all adults in their 20's and early 30's. I feel bad that I was never able to give them anything, but the last celebration was nearly five years ago and I didn't have it then.
Do I owe them something? Should I send the other 3 a check for a super "late" congratulatory gift?