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I have PTLS. I've been waiting 2 months to see a specialist. In that time I was rescheduled twice. I finally got in today after a four hour wait.

The moment the guy came in, he had written me off. He said ptls is fake and all my symptoms are psychosomatic. Fake symptoms from having been raped years ago. Never mind that I was fine for four years after rape and these problems started when my period resumed a year after getting my tubes tied.

So, he did an ultrasound... Was SHOCKED that I asked to insert the wand myself, and then did a manual exam. He inserted 4 fingers for the manual exam. Crazy. Fucking. Painful! Then proceeded to tell me my symptoms are in my head and offered me a shot to shut down my pituitary gland and induce menopause, knowing that the side effects include full body pain, which i already have,.and its not safe for breastfeeding.

I'm so frustrated. I mean, wtf?? I just want some answers, not to be treated like I'm making it all up :(
by on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:17 AM
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melissanoel
by Bronze Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 3:49 PM

Wow. That's a scary thought. I've seen cases where doctor's did unthinkable things to patients. I guess just because you're educated doesn't mean you're a decent person.


Quoting PeacefulLotus:

I dont trust doctors. Case in point: 

My mother, who is a rapist and a child abuser, works as an ARNP in a family clinic. 

Sometimes, you just dont know. 


Quoting melissanoel:

That's good. I just can't believe a so called professional would treat you like that. I worked at a doctor's office before though and they can be really callous and cold. 


Quoting PeacefulLotus:



Quoting melissanoel:

That is awful. Can you find another doctor? Nobody should ever be treated like that. I'm so sorry! :(


Yes, he's not my usual. My usual OB is a really great doctor as well as an awesome guy. He's always been good to me. 







TwoOnTheWay
by on Oct. 10, 2013 at 3:54 PM
It's actually common for practitioners doing that type of exam to ask. Then they go slower and talk thru the exam with the pt if that is the case.

Quoting MrsDavidB25:

 Thanks for answering, and I hope the question wasn't insensitive. I was truly curious if women bring this up or not, and why.


Quoting PeacefulLotus:


 


 


Quoting MrsDavidB25:


 Sounds like a disastrous appointment. Is it common for rape victims to bring up being raped at doctors appointments? Why did you feel it was relevant to bring it up?


 


I don't do particularly well with OBs. I have a different set of requirements for what I need in an appointment. I always explain my situation so that they can understand that I have PTSD, and why I need the things I need. 


I don't know what other victims say or don't say. For me, it makes the experience easier for both the doctor and myself. A GOOD OB then understands to go a little slower, talk me through the exam, etc. Otherwise, they tend to write stuff down that is irrelevant, such as with their body language evaluations. 


 

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