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I have PTLS. I've been waiting 2 months to see a specialist. In that time I was rescheduled twice. I finally got in today after a four hour wait.

The moment the guy came in, he had written me off. He said ptls is fake and all my symptoms are psychosomatic. Fake symptoms from having been raped years ago. Never mind that I was fine for four years after rape and these problems started when my period resumed a year after getting my tubes tied.

So, he did an ultrasound... Was SHOCKED that I asked to insert the wand myself, and then did a manual exam. He inserted 4 fingers for the manual exam. Crazy. Fucking. Painful! Then proceeded to tell me my symptoms are in my head and offered me a shot to shut down my pituitary gland and induce menopause, knowing that the side effects include full body pain, which i already have,.and its not safe for breastfeeding.

I'm so frustrated. I mean, wtf?? I just want some answers, not to be treated like I'm making it all up :(
by on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:17 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:36 AM
I just didn't understand why your husband didn't step up and get snipped himself.


Quoting PeacefulLotus:

I had four mcs before having two healthy babies. I almost died with WA h c section. The second one, I flatlined. My babies did not do well either. I had one 15mo pp because it would be unwise for me to get pregnant again




Quoting Anonymous:

May I ask why you got a tubal to begin with? Were you open for a c section already?


PeacefulLotus
by Silver Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:37 AM
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Very! What he doeant realize is that my FIL is a founding board member of the clinic he works for. I will be making a complaint.


Quoting mattiehatter:

I would feel extremely violated after that and would make a formal complaint. Four fingers is unnecessary for a vaginal exam.




Quoting PeacefulLotus:

I don't know. It was right after I told him is been raped. He was very cruel...






Quoting mattiehatter:

Four fingers for an exam?! Where the hell did he get his medical license?



PeacefulLotus
by Silver Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:37 AM
It was my decision, not his. He will get a vasectomy if I get a reversal.


Quoting Anonymous:

I just didn't understand why your husband didn't step up and get snipped himself.




Quoting PeacefulLotus:

I had four mcs before having two healthy babies. I almost died with WA h c section. The second one, I flatlined. My babies did not do well either. I had one 15mo pp because it would be unwise for me to get pregnant again






Quoting Anonymous:

May I ask why you got a tubal to begin with? Were you open for a c section already?



Supervane
by Ruby Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:37 AM
What kind of Dr was this?
PeacefulLotus
by Silver Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:39 AM
I'm so sorry!


Quoting Anonymous:

OMG, I had a horrible doctor like that once too. I went to pain management for my pain that I've`had since I was a little girl but nobody could figure out. He told me that it was probably all in my head but would order xrays because there was one other thing he thought it could be, and that think, he said, would require back surgery. I told him a had a baby boy and was not ready for this surgery and I'd rather be in pain for a few years until he's more independant and then do it. He then told me, "You are going to get the surgery if I tell you to get the surgery and it really isn't up to you!" He was an ass. I left and never went back. I then found a lovely Rheumatologist who finally diagnosed me and is doing an amazing job managing my symptoms.


PeacefulLotus
by Silver Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:39 AM
OB


Quoting Supervane:

What kind of Dr was this?

Supervane
by Ruby Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:39 AM
I'm.very confused... Partly.because I don't understand the condition. But why reverse it, to have your spouse sterilize?


Quoting PeacefulLotus:

It was my decision, not his. He will get a vasectomy if I get a reversal.




Quoting Anonymous:

I just didn't understand why your husband didn't step up and get snipped himself.






Quoting PeacefulLotus:

I had four mcs before having two healthy babies. I almost died with WA h c section. The second one, I flatlined. My babies did not do well either. I had one 15mo pp because it would be unwise for me to get pregnant again








Quoting Anonymous:

May I ask why you got a tubal to begin with? Were you open for a c section already?




PeacefulLotus
by Silver Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:40 AM
Reversals can remove a lot of the symptoms


Quoting Supervane:

I'm.very confused... Partly.because I don't understand the condition. But why reverse it, to have your spouse sterilize?




Quoting PeacefulLotus:

It was my decision, not his. He will get a vasectomy if I get a reversal.






Quoting Anonymous:

I just didn't understand why your husband didn't step up and get snipped himself.








Quoting PeacefulLotus:

I had four mcs before having two healthy babies. I almost died with WA h c section. The second one, I flatlined. My babies did not do well either. I had one 15mo pp because it would be unwise for me to get pregnant again










Quoting Anonymous:

May I ask why you got a tubal to begin with? Were you open for a c section already?





justone_jen
by Gold Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:43 AM

I'd file a complaint.

Bonnie_
by Gold Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:44 AM

He sounds like a quack.  get a second opinion.

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