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I have PTLS. I've been waiting 2 months to see a specialist. In that time I was rescheduled twice. I finally got in today after a four hour wait.

The moment the guy came in, he had written me off. He said ptls is fake and all my symptoms are psychosomatic. Fake symptoms from having been raped years ago. Never mind that I was fine for four years after rape and these problems started when my period resumed a year after getting my tubes tied.

So, he did an ultrasound... Was SHOCKED that I asked to insert the wand myself, and then did a manual exam. He inserted 4 fingers for the manual exam. Crazy. Fucking. Painful! Then proceeded to tell me my symptoms are in my head and offered me a shot to shut down my pituitary gland and induce menopause, knowing that the side effects include full body pain, which i already have,.and its not safe for breastfeeding.

I'm so frustrated. I mean, wtf?? I just want some answers, not to be treated like I'm making it all up :(
by on Oct. 10, 2013 at 2:17 AM
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Supervane
by Ruby Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 11:54 AM
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Quoting Anonymous:

Because she has PTLS post tubal ligation syndrome. 

Quoting Supervane:

I'm.very confused... Partly.because I don't understand the condition. But why reverse it, to have your spouse sterilize?





Quoting PeacefulLotus:

It was my decision, not his. He will get a vasectomy if I get a reversal.







Quoting Anonymous:

I just didn't understand why your husband didn't step up and get snipped himself.









Quoting PeacefulLotus:

I had four mcs before having two healthy babies. I almost died with WA h c section. The second one, I flatlined. My babies did not do well either. I had one 15mo pp because it would be unwise for me to get pregnant again











Quoting Anonymous:

May I ask why you got a tubal to begin with? Were you open for a c section already?










Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 10, 2013 at 11:56 AM

Im sorry I had a dr that had a God complex to, he once told me right after having a hysterectomy , when I asked if I could go home he said No, I asked why when I had the double mastectomy I went home the next morning, he said well you only had your breasts cut off. I left the hospital that day AMA , and wouldnt go back to that dr, the office finally switched me to someone else in the same practice, wish I had picked him from the get go, told me had he done my hysterectomy ,he would have done a tummy tuck for free since he already had me cut.  damn I missed out to have a dr that thinks hes GOD.

lovinmykiddo07
by Ruby Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 12:09 PM

This. I've never had a doctor use more than 2. I would most certainly file a complaint. He sounds rude & unprofessional. 

Quoting mattiehatter:

I would feel extremely violated after that and would make a formal complaint. Four fingers is unnecessary for a vaginal exam.


Quoting PeacefulLotus:

I don't know. It was right after I told him is been raped. He was very cruel...




Quoting mattiehatter:

Four fingers for an exam?! Where the hell did he get his medical license?



bellawomen
by Summer on Oct. 10, 2013 at 12:14 PM
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You need to request a copy of your medical records and then file a complaint with your medical board. He is violating ethics and the law.

Quoting PeacefulLotus:

I ALMOST got it... Bit had a baddd feeling. They wouldn't tell me the side effects. I'm glad I declined and looked it up!




Quoting Anonymous:

It certainly does considering what the pituitary gland is all involved in. This sounds flat out crazy!





Quoting PeacefulLotus:

I have no idea. That sounds really, really dangerous.








Quoting AtillaTheHun:

He wants to shut down your pituitary gland?! Does he even know what he is doing?!


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 10, 2013 at 12:16 PM
Ptls isnt a recognized condition so not all dr believe it is. Call around and interview obs and find one who does.
bellawomen
by Summer on Oct. 10, 2013 at 12:17 PM
I am sure his degree and such are legal. Many doctors develop a God-complex, which this guy obviously has.

Quoting Anonymous:

That's what I was wondering too... Nothing about this man screams 'I got my medical degree legally.'

Quoting mattiehatter:

Four fingers for an exam?! Where the hell did he get his medical license?


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 10, 2013 at 12:49 PM
Are you serious? As a butcher maybe buy not as a doctor. At least not a good one... Please don't go back there.

Quoting PeacefulLotus:

Apparently he has like 30 yrs experience!




Quoting Anonymous:

That's what I was wondering too... Nothing about this man screams 'I got my medical degree legally.'

Quoting mattiehatter:

Four fingers for an exam?! Where the hell did he get his medical license?



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 10, 2013 at 12:53 PM
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I was being sarcastic. I worked with doctors, and some of them have no bedside manners whatsoever. He sounds like he has an asshole-complex paired with an overly developed ego. That is not how a good doctor treats a patient.

Quoting bellawomen:

I am sure his degree and such are legal. Many doctors develop a God-complex, which this guy obviously has.



Quoting Anonymous:

That's what I was wondering too... Nothing about this man screams 'I got my medical degree legally.'

Quoting mattiehatter:

Four fingers for an exam?! Where the hell did he get his medical license?


Stellavitae
by Bronze Member on Oct. 10, 2013 at 12:57 PM

So was a nurse present at the exam?

Jammin.
by on Oct. 10, 2013 at 1:01 PM
They dont have to. I have a male OB and its always just the two of us. I could request a female in there, and hes offered, but its not required.


Quoting Anonymous:

Please tell me you reported him. Was there a nurse in there too? I always thought male doctors were required to have a female nurse in there with them with female patients for liability purposes...



Quoting PeacefulLotus:

I don't know. It was right after I told him is been raped. He was very cruel...






Quoting mattiehatter:

Four fingers for an exam?! Where the hell did he get his medical license?


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