Perhaps I'm bitter, I don't know. I have a friend who was victimized by her ex-husband for years and he's used her weaknesses against her, she has spent years in court fighting with him over her children and his only desire to fight with her is so he can collect more welfare and get more back when it comes to income taxes and yet I have a cousin who constantly feels the need to talk as if she's better than my friend. My cousin was a typical slut, sleeping with guys for attention because her daddy thought of her as a slut as soon as she turned 14, so she fucked a guy and got her pregnant even though this guy was older than her by 10+ years and already had several children with several women. Her baby daddy never wanted anything to do with her or their kid, she's a pathological liar who got by only on the charity of our late grandmother before meeting a man desperate enough to be with her (every guy before him just used her for sex, none of them would admit to being her "boyfriend"). Now she's married, living as a housewife, and yet she's still a pathological liar who goes out every weekend and parties with her friends...her son, who is now 13, tells me all she does is sleep all day because she stays up all night. Years ago I spent a week with her and I felt bad for her baby girl, she'd get up in the morning and make sure her son went off to the bus stop for school but then would lie in bed all day until her son got out of school at which point he'd take care of his baby sister and his mom would eventually come out of her room just before her husband got home from work - and then she'd act like a doting mom and wife.
She'd always comment about how her daughter thought of me as a favorite cousin and loved me, well that wasn't because I favored her, it was because I treated her like a mom should treat her baby. The last two times I saw her which was on the weekends she'd say she was still fucked up from going out with her friends and using ecstasy and I just have nothing to say to her because a big part of me wants to smack her. It's obvious from what her son and mother tell me that she still sleeps all day, expecting her teenage son to care for his toddler sister, and uses her husband as an excuse - claiming she can't sleep at night because her husband works 3rd shift so she supposedly can't sleep when he's not home. She is constantly pawning items to pay rent and other necessities, and also borrows money from her 13 year old son...last I heard she owes him over $100.
It infuriates me that no one else in the family seems to have an issue with her because she's been lucky enough to find a man willing to take care of her while everyone in the family looks down on my friend, who I've known almost all my life and my family knows her too but just thinks "I told you so" but I understand where she comes from, even I didn't see just how sociopathic her ex is and the women in my family aren't much better - sure they've dealt with divorce but none of their husbands attacked them or fought them for custody, their husbands were more than willing to leave family life behind for the life of a bachelor with no concerns over their children.