Married moms are NOT the same as single moms!!! EDIT. EDIT #2
I had this argument at work today with two married women. All three of us were going to college, but one of them dropped out because it was too hard because she was "doing it all by herself". I said no she wasn't, because she has a husband to help her. The other girl agreed with her, and said that having a husband doesn't matter because she still does everything on her own. I disagree, I think that being a single mom is COMPLETELY different.
Is being a single mom the same as being married to someone who doesn't contribute? Is it harder? Easier?
If your husband has EVER made dinner, done the laundry, helped the kids with homework, taken them to the park, drove them to/from sports practices/games, put them to bed, swept the floor, mowed the lawn, or ANYTHING else, then you can't say that your husband doesn't do anything to help. Single moms have to do all of that and more, with NO help from ANYONE. We can't just say "here, watch the kids while I run to the store". Nope, we take them with us. We can't say "I'm taking DS to soccer practice, can you make dinner?". Nope, we take them to soccer practice AND we find a way to squeeze dinner in somewhere.
Unless your husband sits on your couch LITERALLY all day long, then he is more helpful than my non-existant spouse. I garuntee that not many people can say that their husband ACTUALLY sits around all day and does absolutely nothing. It may FEEL like he doens't help much (or not as much as you'd like) but I PROMISE he has, at some point, helped.
Some of you are reading WAY more in to this than there is. First off, *I* didn't compare lives with anyone, *I* didn't judge anyone. I simply stated that my coworker was not "doing it all by herself" because there is another grown human living in her house that does, in fact, contribute in SOME way to the household. Whether she feels that it's enough is irrelevant, he still contributes.
I CLEARLY stated that being a single mom and being a married mom are DIFFERENT, not that one is harder than the other. I NEVER said that my life was harder, or that theirs was easier than mine.
My first edit was meant to clarify something, because of all of the women who have said "I have a husband, but he doesn't do anything". Just because he doesn't do ENOUGH doesn't mean he doesn't do ANYTHING.
My last paragraph was intended to be taken literally, in the actual sense of the word. Unless a man sits on his ass ALL DAY LONG, then he does more than nothing.
I'm not talking about whose life is HARDER or EASIER, I'm not complaining that I have it harder than others. I was asking a question. Some of you need to get off of your high horse and learn to read before you type.