See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
I was reading some of the replies from the post about people's response to whether a woman is a wife or gf and I noticed some saying "If he's just your bf he can leave anytime" or "it's not a real committment" or the one I hate the most people are "playing house"......IMO A man who is married can "just leave" too. I mean even though he'll have to jump through hoops, he could still just walk out of the door at any moment. Marriage isn't the only way to show your committment to someone. If you're with your partner for 10+ years I don't see how someone could say that you're not committed just because you haven't signed any papers. If you've lived with someone for that long you're "playing house"? I don't think anyone is playing anything after that many years together. A ring doesn't equal commitment just like no ring doesn't equal not being committed. This is just a subject that kinda annoys me as someone who won't be getting married. If you think it's harder for a married man to leave, why/how is it harder [other than the legal hoops]?
**All of your responses have truly been interesting. Here is another question I thought of at one point when my grandmother asked me if I was going to marry my bf. When I told her no she mentioned God [I am not religious, but I didn't say that to her b/c she has enough going on w/o worrying about my eternal soul]. This made me think, when it comes to getting married many people do it for religious reasons. I have a friend who got married just so he could live with his gf. I was like wow, that's a dumb reason to get married. Anwyay, a marriage license is a contract that you're signing, there's nothing religious about it. God is no considered to be "worldly" so why does signing a paper [something worldly] hold any importance religiously?
This article that I was reading reminded me of that.