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is it ok to date while separated?

Anonymous
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I've been married for 10 years this November. The past 4.5 years, we've been sleeping in separate rooms. I've recently meet a kind, caring man whom if like to know better. Like I said, I'm still living with my spouse, due to financial reasons, but we have no relationship other than being parents to our children. Would it be wrong to start dating before the divorce? Should I ask my spouse if he'd be ok with it?
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 11, 2013 at 8:11 AM
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alexsmomaubrys2
by Ruby Member on Oct. 11, 2013 at 8:12 AM
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In my opinion, no. 

DH and I believe that it is an affair until the divorce papers are signed. 

EvaTheDiva2
by Gold Member on Oct. 11, 2013 at 8:13 AM
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I was seperated in june. Moved out in sept. I found someone. But i waited until i moved out of the house. Do what you wamt to do. No judhement here
Cmgmqmmom
by Ruby Member on Oct. 11, 2013 at 8:13 AM
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In my opinion, you are still technically married, so yes, it would be wrong.

However, if you and your soon to be ex-spouse don't care, then that's all that really matters.

owl0210
by Emerald Member on Oct. 11, 2013 at 8:13 AM
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If you were living apart and been separated for a while I don't see an issue with it because divorce can take years for some.
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kjfamily
by Gold Member on Oct. 11, 2013 at 8:14 AM
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I would say it was ok if you were living separately and doing things on your own. But still living together and him supporting you it would be disrespectful at this point.
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SleuthMaria
by Platinum Member on Oct. 11, 2013 at 8:15 AM
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Not for me to say. It's up to you & your soon to be ex
honeyrder
by Platinum Member on Oct. 11, 2013 at 8:15 AM
I was going to say it's fine as long as he knows you're separated, but now I wonder if he is going to babysit.
ProudMommy51006
by on Oct. 11, 2013 at 8:17 AM
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I think it's wrong
Liastele
by Lauren on Oct. 11, 2013 at 8:17 AM
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Since you guys live together, I'd say wait. Perhaps you could ask that guy if he would be ok being just friends until you are divorced and have your own place. 

LaughCryLive
by Ruby Member on Oct. 11, 2013 at 8:17 AM
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In your situation, since you are still living together, it seems wrong.  I did date while seperated though.  I didn't want to shell out the money for divorce when we already did not speak to each other, did not see each other, etc. 

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