Ok so Dh & I have a yours, mine and ours thing going on.
I have 1 son from a previous relationship who is about to be 5. ( He was born early, has some delays because of it. I was a 100% single mom for his first two years)
He has 1 son from a previous relationship who is 3. ( I have been in his life since he was born, and been a mother figure in his life since he was 3 months. BM drank , smokes, drugs, and "didnt know she was pregnant" carried to 41 weeks, gave birth and abandoned him at the hospital. CPS found DH and he went for custody she popped back up and she did a family reunification and its now 50/50 custody)
We have 1 son together who is soon turning 2. ( no delays, normal pregnancy. Only issue is still breastfeeding, and a bad nut allergy)
So now the problem, I want take my Oldest DS to a Movie, or just have some one on one time and it never happens. I am to the point of Hiring a babysitter. Dh says how much youngest needs me, and is still breastfeeding, and a bunch of other crap excuses. I mean I never ever go anywhere without my youngest, and I am getting tired of it. He'll watch my oldest, he'll watch his son, but he wont watch our son. It makes no sense. His DS gets alone time, with grandma, and 7 days off and on being an only child. My ds sees his dad every weekend for 6 hours Sat and Sun, and 2 hours mon, 2 hours tue, and 2 hours thursday. (strange I know, but its what his dad "can Manage", and what his dad "wants") All the do is sit and watch netflix, or play videogames. Our ds gets alone time with me when oldest is in school, or with his dad and his ds is with BM.
Am I wrong for wanting alone time with my oldest?
Eta: maybe that will fix the smashed problem, and to add its him who has said the yours mine and ours crap, I just call them our children or all of them my kids when hes being an ass lol