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what did I do wrong

Anonymous
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My dh and I had some issues about 6 months ago. He caught him in a big lie that almost ended our marriage. It causes self esteem issues within my self. I have told h that this is my issue to work through. The one thing I did ask of him is if he looks at porn to not look at it at home.

Fast forward to tonight. I went to get a shower and when I came out he had his phone and he threw it down on the couch real quick. I went to grab my cigs to go outside to smoke and look at the couch and there was a porn video playing. I pick up the phone gave it to him and said hey the video didn't go off and I went outside to smoke. I didn't yell or scream or cuss. A couple of minutes later he comes outside like he is all mad at me. What did I do wrong. I told him that I have known that he has looked at before while I was in the shower cause I have seen hi m cut his phone off real quick before but didn't say anything before because I am over it.

I asked him why is he yelling because I am not mad. What the hell did i do wrong. I don't want to argue. I am done with all of that.
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 12, 2013 at 11:44 PM
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JackieGirl007
by on Oct. 12, 2013 at 11:47 PM
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 You didn't do anything wrong, I hate guys who act like this. Well, girls too. It's ridiculous.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 12, 2013 at 11:53 PM
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 Lol I know what you did wrong. You got out of the shower too early, he figured he  had about 5 more minutes.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 13, 2013 at 12:34 AM

he told me that he deleted all of the porn on his phone I told him that i didn't ask him to do that. and he keeps telling me to look through his phone. that there isn't anything like before on it. I won't find anything . I keep telling him that I don't want to look through his phone but he keep telling me too. Like i told him, I have decided to let that go; there is a reason I stop looking through his phone because I want to trust him and I can't do that if i am looking through his phone.  

He don't seem to understand that I am not mad about the porn. If there is anything that I would be mad about it would be him looking like he is hiding something but I saw what he was looking at .

 when we had the issue before  I told him, if he does something that he know i will have an issues with be honest not sneaky. BUt i am not mad. 

vegaswife2011
by LMAO on Oct. 13, 2013 at 12:40 AM

You did nothing wrong' 

liss.n.chris
by on Oct. 13, 2013 at 12:41 AM
Yep, this exactly.

Quoting Anonymous:

 Lol I know what you did wrong. You got out of the shower too early, he figured he  had about 5 more minutes.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 13, 2013 at 1:04 AM

I came back inside  a few mins ago and he told me he is sorry. I told him i was never mad and that i love him and i won't argue over stuff like this. 

Quoting JackieGirl007:

 You didn't do anything wrong, I hate guys who act like this. Well, girls too. It's ridiculous.


JackieGirl007
by on Oct. 13, 2013 at 1:10 AM

Well if you only asked him not to look at porn at home, and he still does when he gets the chance to do it behind your back, I am confused. Why arent you mad?

Quoting Anonymous:

I came back inside  a few mins ago and he told me he is sorry. I told him i was never mad and that i love him and i won't argue over stuff like this. 

Quoting JackieGirl007:

 You didn't do anything wrong, I hate guys who act like this. Well, girls too. It's ridiculous.



Famousglm714
by Gina on Oct. 13, 2013 at 1:15 AM


Quoting JackieGirl007:

 You didn't do anything wrong, I hate guys who act like this. Well, girls too. It's ridiculous.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 13, 2013 at 1:20 AM

I am a little hurt that he did something that i asked him not to do but I will not make a big deal out of it. He knows he did something that I asked him not to do and he got caught and that is why he is so mad because he got caught.  That is also why he deleted all the porn off of his phone.  I  have spent way to much time over the past 6 months being mad about stuff and i refuse to let it keep happening. I can't control what he does, he makes his own decision and the fact that he is mad that he got caught then he knows he did something wrong.

We did have a small conversation about that while he was taking a shower. and I told him that he knows why i have an issues with the porn. i can't tell him what to do but all i asked for him to do is to not do it at the house becuase of the other issues that cause my self esteem issue. the other stuff that we dealt with makes this look minor.

I do love him and no matter what he does that will not change .  I can tell by looking at him that he knows once again he fucked up. I don't want him to have to feel like he has to hide stuff from me, that is one of the main reason why i am not blowing up at him about this. I think he keep feeling like he keeps fucking up. I think he is mad at himself and acting mad at me makes it easier to deal with and that is why he told me he was sorry.

Quoting JackieGirl007:

Well if you only asked him not to look at porn at home, and he still does when he gets the chance to do it behind your back, I am confused. Why arent you mad?

Quoting Anonymous:

I came back inside  a few mins ago and he told me he is sorry. I told him i was never mad and that i love him and i won't argue over stuff like this. 

Quoting JackieGirl007:

 You didn't do anything wrong, I hate guys who act like this. Well, girls too. It's ridiculous.




JackieGirl007
by on Oct. 13, 2013 at 1:37 AM

 Why do you let him treat you like shit?

Quoting Anonymous:

I am a little hurt that he did something that i asked him not to do but I will not make a big deal out of it. He knows he did something that I asked him not to do and he got caught and that is why he is so mad because he got caught.  That is also why he deleted all the porn off of his phone.  I  have spent way to much time over the past 6 months being mad about stuff and i refuse to let it keep happening. I can't control what he does, he makes his own decision and the fact that he is mad that he got caught then he knows he did something wrong.

We did have a small conversation about that while he was taking a shower. and I told him that he knows why i have an issues with the porn. i can't tell him what to do but all i asked for him to do is to not do it at the house becuase of the other issues that cause my self esteem issue. the other stuff that we dealt with makes this look minor.

I do love him and no matter what he does that will not change .  I can tell by looking at him that he knows once again he fucked up. I don't want him to have to feel like he has to hide stuff from me, that is one of the main reason why i am not blowing up at him about this. I think he keep feeling like he keeps fucking up. I think he is mad at himself and acting mad at me makes it easier to deal with and that is why he told me he was sorry.

Quoting JackieGirl007:

Well if you only asked him not to look at porn at home, and he still does when he gets the chance to do it behind your back, I am confused. Why arent you mad?

Quoting Anonymous:

I came back inside  a few mins ago and he told me he is sorry. I told him i was never mad and that i love him and i won't argue over stuff like this. 

Quoting JackieGirl007:

 You didn't do anything wrong, I hate guys who act like this. Well, girls too. It's ridiculous.





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