Thinking of leaving DH... Help me do the right thing.
Example: "honey would you rather have peas or carrots today?"
DH simply will not answer. Won't even blink in my direction.
If he's mad or upset about something I'll hug him, and he doesn't move.
I try so hard, he treats me like a stranger. We've been married 3 years. He has 2 kids, my steps. And we have one coming.
As much as I don't want to be the one who breaks up another of my stepkids families... I don't want my child to grow up seeing a marriage where the husband does not love the wife.
Also, he's so mean. He's never hit me, not once. But he will get pissed off and not look at nor speak to me for days, or shout constantly at me, over the smallest things.
Example: DH was laying on the floor crying one night about a month ago. I sat next to him, held his hand, and said exactly "I hate seeing you hurting, what's wrong?"
He started shouting at me and didnt speak to me again, at all, for 6 days. Except to say "you have a terrible way of showing it." When I told him the only reason I asked what was wrong is because I care about him.
I know in my heart a man who loves his wife wouldn't treat her this way. But, I am trying to be a good wife. I'm trying to wait on the other side of this miserable life he's putting me through. To wait for him to let go of whatever is making him do this. But we've been together 5 years, married 3, and I've spent more of my marriage with THIS man than the one I fell in love with.
He refuses counseling because the problems are ME. I need to change. So counseling would be useless for him.
However, I can not get him to vocalize to me how he wants ME to change. So, I'm not sure counseling on my part would help either. But I'm willing to try!
What should I do?