Afraid my marriage will be over soon... explanation on page 4
My husband and I have been married for 13 years. I am in love with him and he is in love with me. We have three sons and a set of twin dds together. During this last pregnancy we made a decision together, if I went natural and did not require an emergency c-section my dh would get fixed soon after the birth. If I needed a c-section if would get my tubes tied. Everything went without a hitch. So now my dh is looking into a vasectomy.
He has a counseling appt for Thursday. At first I was thinking this was a good idea. However my father in law has told us for years it is a bad idea. He was done and suffered lack of desire for sex. He still suffers from it. I began doing research yesterday and came to a website about it. Suffice it to say my fil is not the only one suffering.
They say it is all psychological but many men disagree. My husband asked well what in the heck are we going to use? I suggest condoms and the mini pill and he was like riiiiiight.... I found a new procedure where they inject the scrotum sacks with a substance that kills the sperm but it is in clinical trials in India and trials in the US do not even start until next year.
Honestly I am terrified my dh will lose interest. I am a very sexual being and cannot live without it for very long. And, (I won't admit it but) I find it gross. I may lose interest. I think of a neutered dog when I think about it... I think we are going to end up divorcing. And my dh wants it done, in this state he does not need my permission and I have voiced my concerns about him losing interest and it doesn't sway him.
So sadly, we will probably be over soon. :(