I don't know if they did or not. I never really cared about diaries that much. I have read my daughter's from time to time. I don't feel bad about it. If I feel the need to take a look at the side of her life that she doesn't necessarily share with me, I'll do it. But I don't do anything with what I find there. Luckily there has never been a situation where I had to. But I still want to stay on top of where her head is at. The only snooping I ever did that I had to call her on was something in a FB message. But she's always known that if I wanted to look around in her account, I will. So it wasn't a big shock.
My mom probably did at some point. I saw her reading my sister's once. I have not read my daughter's (age 10), but she reads it to me all the time.
For a serious safety concern that she won't talk about, I would read it.
I feel that as a parent, a child's safety over rules privacy. If you have concerns, then read it. If you just want to know stuff she isnt telling you, don't.
The students at Columbine had detailed their plans in their journal. Their parents had concerns, but didnt want to invade their privacy. Had they gone with their gut, the kids they shot and their own sons could be alive today.
I never kept a diary, but I kept a calender that I kept dates of when I started to date a guy along with other things that I would have hated to explain to my mother. Have you tried to have a conversation with her first about what might be going on? I'm not saying I'm against reading my kids diary if I feel the need, however I would be afraid that I was to get caught then our trust would be broken.
I think that parents need to respect their children's privacy until they have a valid reason not to. Children's rights to privacy are not inviolate, and parents need to do what's best for the children, whether they agree or not. If you have valid reasons for worry, ACT.
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