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Is this considered cheating? **ETA**

Anonymous
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I am writing a paper on relationships and how the internet and social media can affect them.

How would you feel if you found out your dh was having cybersex with other woman? Would you consider it a form of cheating? How would it make you feel?


**ETA** Let me pose another question, those of you who have been affected by this, is porn allowed in your relationship? Never? Only together? Or ok if watching by themself (say you're away from home)? What is the difference to you between watching porn and cybersex?

And thank you all for sharing so far, I really appreciate it!
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 18, 2013 at 5:49 AM
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momto3infl
by Gold Member on Oct. 18, 2013 at 5:54 AM

 Well hub has done this in the past-at and because we talked about how and what we expected with our relationship when first dating didnt bother me.  Now when he did have a one time fling what upset me was he waiting several months before he told me-we fought yelled cried and talked again on our relationship and moved on-been together almost 20yrs and married almost 18yrs.

big.city.mama
by Bronze Member on Oct. 18, 2013 at 5:54 AM
I did found out and I do consider it cheating
Sister.Menses
by Silver Member on Oct. 18, 2013 at 5:56 AM
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Yea, I'd consider it cheating.
llamaqueen
by on Oct. 18, 2013 at 5:57 AM
Yes. I would still feel betrayed by someone I loved and respected. It would hurt deeply even if there was no physical contact between my SO and the other person.
CampClan
by Platinum Member on Oct. 18, 2013 at 6:00 AM
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As a Christian I was raised to believe (& still do) lusting after anyone other than your own spouse is not being faithful. It doessnt matter if it's physical, emotional, or virtual- if that person is not your spouse it's a sin.
villagemamma
by Platinum Member on Oct. 18, 2013 at 6:00 AM
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i would concider it cheating. it would invoke the same thoughts and hurt feelings as finding out he was physically cheating. i have heard some people that have been through it say that it hurts worse because when you find the back and forth conversation and experience the intimate moment between your husband and the other women first hand. It would be as if you had been there watching them cheat.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 18, 2013 at 7:45 AM
Yes it's cheating, any thing that takes away from the intimacy I share with dh is cheating. Flirting, kissing, oral, sex even fantasy can be cheating if it includes someone other than us. Most people don't consider porn cheating but I do now because dh formed an addiction to it. He was focusing on his own needs and not our marriage, he turned to it rather than me, he allowed it to take away from our intimacy so it was cheating. Cyber sex is most definitely cheating because you are having that moment with someone other than your spouse and connecting in a very intimate way.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 18, 2013 at 7:46 AM

Yes, no doubt about it 

SyllabaryBisque
by on Oct. 18, 2013 at 7:48 AM

Yes, I would consider it cheating.

spastic_poodle
by Gold Member on Oct. 18, 2013 at 7:49 AM
My ex cybered and posted personal ads a lot. It hurt and I never fully trusted him again. I felt like I had to monitor everything after that. And I lost most feelings of intimacy towards him. It led to the demise of our 7 year marriage.
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