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yelling is bad as hitting

Posted by on Oct. 20, 2013 at 11:49 PM
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Parents who yell or swear at their teenagers can cause some of the same problems as hitting them would, including increased risk of depression and aggressive behaviour, a new study has found. 

Use of harsh verbal discipline - defined as shouting, cursing, or using insults - may be just as detrimental to the long-term well-being of adolescents, researchers said. 

The study led by Ming-Te Wang, from the University of Pittsburgh and coauthored by Sarah Kenny from the University of Michigan concludes that, rather than minimising problematic behaviour in adolescents, the use of harsh verbal discipline may in fact aggravate it. 

Researchers found that adolescents who had experienced harsh verbal discipline suffered from increased levels of depressive symptoms, and were more likely to demonstrate behavioural problems such as vandalism or antisocial and aggressive behaviour. 

Wang and Kenny found that the negative effects of verbal discipline within the two-year period of their study were comparable to the effects shown over the same period of time in other studies that focused on physical discipline. 

"From that we can infer that these results will last the same way that the effects of physical discipline do because the immediate-to-two-year effects of verbal discipline were about the same as for physical discipline," Wang said. 

Based on the literature studying the effects of physical discipline, Wang and Kenny anticipate similar long-term results for adolescents subjected to harsh verbal discipline. 

Significantly, the researchers also found that "parental warmth" - the degree of love, emotional support, and affection between parents and adolescents - did not lessen the effects of the verbal discipline. 

The sense that parents are yelling at the child "out of love," or "for their own good," does not mitigate the damage inflicted. Neither does the strength of the parent-child bond, Wang said. 

Even lapsing only occasionally into the use of harsh verbal discipline, said Wang, can still be harmful. 

"Even if you are supportive of your child, if you fly off the handle it's still bad," he said. 

Researchers show harsh verbal discipline occurred more frequently in instances in which the child exhibited problem behaviours, and these same problem behaviours, in turn, were more likely to continue when adolescents received verbal discipline. 

"It's a vicious circle. And it's a tough call for parents because it goes both ways: problem behaviours from children create the desire to give harsh verbal discipline, but that discipline may push adolescents towards those same problem behaviours," Wang said. 

agree or disagree also be honest and admit if you yell at your teen

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mileysmom331
by on Oct. 20, 2013 at 11:50 PM
My parents yelled at me still do lol I turned out just fine :)
Hannahluvsdogs
by Ruby Member on Oct. 20, 2013 at 11:51 PM

Yeah, I wish my dad knew this when I was growing up.

Tatum2U
by Platinum Member on Oct. 20, 2013 at 11:52 PM
I hate yelling . Probably because my parents were yellers. I don't yell because of it and I don't hit.

And I agree with the study.
3gr8tKids
by Gold Member on Oct. 20, 2013 at 11:53 PM
Belittling, degrading, abuses speech .. All very bad things. Yelling on the other hand can be very therapeutic and not harmful at all in a relationship.
TaughtTot
by on Oct. 20, 2013 at 11:54 PM

There's a line drawn with both, when it becomes abusive it is a problem.  Issue is with yelling, yelling doesn't leave physical bruising or scarring, that is why it goes undetected.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Oct. 20, 2013 at 11:55 PM
One person turning out fine is not the same as an entire study . Plus your idea of just fine may not be what I would consider fine . Lastly , you have no idea how much better you might be if you weren't verbally abused .

Quoting mileysmom331:

My parents yelled at me still do lol I turned out just fine :)
Raine_Dance
by Bronze Member on Oct. 20, 2013 at 11:55 PM
I grew up being called horrible names, and having my body judged by my parents and was told numerous times what a horrible person I was til my mother sent me to live with my aunt, who was also off her damn rocker. The things they said hurt more than any of the times they physically hurt me.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 20, 2013 at 11:56 PM

I'm trying to remember why I associate your name with "batshit crazy". Can someone remind me, please?

tardistraveller
by on Oct. 20, 2013 at 11:56 PM
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Hmm...  Something to think about.  I'm a yeller.  Some alternatives and tips would be great.

 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 20, 2013 at 11:57 PM
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No wonder I was so antisocial and depressed... :-/
I keep telling myself that I need to stop yelling at my kids.
it's a hard habit to break.
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