Wowwwww my MIL is too smart for her own good!

[happymomma13]

MIL babysits for a few hours on Sunday nights so that my husband and I can go on a date night.
Dinner and a movie.

Dd is 9 months old.
She's bf and cosleeping.

Here's the thing...... my husband and I DON'T MIND cosleeping.
We enjoy it. And as soon as she is weened, around 1 and a half likely, she'll be in her toddler bed. The bed we are buying is for 15+ mos.

Well RIGHT when I walk through the fuuuucccckkkiinngg door to get my daughter, I get insulted.
RIGHT off the bat.
Always. Always always always.

I'm in a great mood. Had a great date. I'm happy.
I've worked my ass off all week being a good wife and Mom and doing everything I can to have a happy family.
And I'm always insulted by her.
Every time I see her, something I do isn't good enough.

She immediately starts in on me about how cosleeping is bad for my daughter because blah blah blah.

The thing is, I don't think sleeping separately is bad! I just don't do it.
I don't think formula is bad! Just don't do it.
I don't think other parents are bad for their decisions, I just don't do them!

Everyone is different. Why is her way always better.

She's always saying, "Well I never did anything weird like that....."
and then insulting me.



She has insulted my clothing.
She insults my relationship with her son.
She insults pumping/bfing.
She insults the food I feed my dd. I make her babyfood homemade, and my MIL says it isn't enough for her and the jarred food is healthier.
She insults me on everything.


Why can't I have a relationship where we get along and she appreciates what I do and doesn't want to undermine me?

I always wanted a MIL that I could hang out with and watch movies and shop with.
Will you ladies adopt me as your DIL? Haha.

Now make me laugh. ):

[the_dude]

she sounds like a fucking bunch a lollipops, at the end of a rainbow, in the middle of shitstorm. 

[Anonymous 1]

[Jammin.]

[happymomma13]

Oh my god, hahaha that's ADORABLE.

Okay it's all better now.
(:

Quoting Anonymous:

[happymomma13]

She even insulted what movie we went to see.
I was like, "Well I'm sorry you didn't have fun on our date..."


Quoting the_dude:she sounds like a fucking bunch a lollipops, at the end of a rainbow, in the middle of shitstorm. 

[happymomma13]

Haha thank you!

Quoting Jammin.:

[RaniNY]

I would say, oh really? Well, I'll have to think about that! And if she kept up, I'd say, you did what you thought was best, and I plan to do the same! And if she says, I listened to my MIL/Mom, I'd say, that was your choice! I would preface it by saying, I know you're concerned, and I appreciate that, but...!

[happymomma13]

btw I love the way you worded that.

I'm gonna pretend like I made it up and tell hubby now. ;)
Just kidding. I'll tell him the Dude said it

Quoting the_dude:

she sounds like a fucking bunch a lollipops, at the end of a rainbow, in the middle of shitstorm. 

[the_dude]

how do you deal? dude would have to slam her tongue in the car door. or there would be problems , like a dead old woman...j/k ;) ....not really....

Quoting happymomma13:

She even insulted what movie we went to see.
I was like, "Well I'm sorry you didn't have fun on our date..."


Quoting the_dude:she sounds like a fucking bunch a lollipops, at the end of a rainbow, in the middle of shitstorm. 

[happymomma13]

That's why I love my Mom. She never oversteps.
She didn't parent the way I am at all. But she can still say, "You're a great Mom." and mean it. She always encourages me.
When I was stressed and exhausted from
BF a newborn she encouraged me to keep on. Even though she formula fed!
And my MIL said, "When should I buy some formula? Let me go get some."

Quoting RaniNY:

I would say, oh really? Well, I'll have to think about that! And if she kept up, I'd say, you did what you thought was best, and I plan to do the same! And if she says, I listened to my MIL/Mom, I'd say, that was your choice! I would preface it by saying, I know you're concerned, and I appreciate that, but...!