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Is it okay to make fun of your toddler or young child while he or she is having a tantrum?

Posted by on Oct. 21, 2013 at 12:03 PM
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Mean Dad Makes Fun Of His Daughter During Tantrum (VIDEO)

by Lisa Fogarty

There are lots of things we can do as parents to help our children get through those really awful, irrational tantrums they have about ten times each day. We can try to ignore them so that our kids won't associate attention with their behavior. We can distract them, enact a time-out rule, or even teach them how to calm themselves down. What should we probably not do? Laugh at them, ridicule them, and teach his or her siblings to do the same. Which is more or less what this dad did on video for kicks.

Admittedly, when I first viewed this video and heard the little girl's pleading voice in the background, I thought he was making fun of his toddler and I got super pissed off. Then I learned that his daughter is actually six and, according to mom, had been having a tantrum for one hour. Dad was just trying to lighten the mood, she says. Okay, I get it. A six-year-old may be able to take this kind of humor and maybe -- maybe -- it will even shut her down and teach her to laugh at herself.

Only that doesn't seem to be what's happening, judging by the video. The girl just keeps screaming louder and louder and her brother appears to be having a good time laughing along with dad and mom. Right. Good luck teaching your son to not tease your daughter after you've set this example, dad! 

I'm the mom of a toddler and not a six-year-old so yeah, I'm still uptight when it comes to things like this. I'm trying to show my daughter how to take three deep breaths and count to ten when she gets upset -- and it's actually working. I can't imagine laughing at her in front of her (whatever you do in the privacy of your bedroom is another matter) while she's experiencing what feels like a real problem that has given her real anxiety.

Maybe I'll feel differently after four more years of tantrums, and maybe different tactics just work for different kids and we shouldn't judge this dad too harshly. Hey, this family might even be on to something since some of us seem to talk to her our children like they are 55-year-old professors who understand all logic instead of like children who understand..well, not much logic at all.

That said, I still can't watch this video without cringing. I'm not on board with ridicule..yet.


Do you think it's okay to make fun of your toddler or young child while he or she is having a tantrum?

by on Oct. 21, 2013 at 12:03 PM
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IloveNCIS
by on Oct. 21, 2013 at 12:06 PM

WOW, that was pretty terrible.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Oct. 21, 2013 at 12:09 PM
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I think it depeands on the tantrum. This vedio makes this dad look like a ass. When my son who is 6 is throughing a fit because he didn't get his way sometimes it help to make fun of him and play around with him to make him for get it. Other times I will put him in his room or somewhere else were he can through his little fit and once he's down and calms down then we have a nice talk about what happend and why he got so upset to start with and go from there.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 21, 2013 at 12:15 PM
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I have done that. I actually recorded my 4 year old having his tantrum and made him watch it he was embarrassed and hasn't behaved that way.  My 10 year old when he was 7 threw a huge tantrum and only stopped when I started mimicing him.  He asked if that was how he really looked and I said yes.  He never threw another one.  To each their own. 

AugustMidge
by on Oct. 21, 2013 at 12:16 PM
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First of all my six year old BETTER not be throwing tantams! Secondly they can throw there tantrum in there room until they are finished throwing a fit. 

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zacmacsmomm
by Gold Member on Oct. 21, 2013 at 12:19 PM
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I ignored them, or told them to be louder so the people on the next block could hear them.  Then I would walk away.  Sometimes I just carried their happy asses to their rooms and told them to stay there untill they were done

othermom
by Ruby Member on Oct. 21, 2013 at 12:20 PM

I think it depends on the tantrum and how old the child is

othermom
by Ruby Member on Oct. 21, 2013 at 12:21 PM
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Quoting zacmacsmomm:

I ignored them, or told them to be louder so the people on the next block could hear them.  Then I would walk away.  Sometimes I just carried their happy asses to their rooms and told them to stay there untill they were done

I try to ignore them too. The other day my almost 4 year old threw a huge fit because I shut her door and she didn't want to open it. So I left her crying in her room for 15 minutes

 

suzanneyea
by on Oct. 21, 2013 at 12:21 PM

I just quietly wait it out. Sometimes dh  and I look at each other and laugh a little, but not when he can see.

mojogirl
by Alice Liddell on Oct. 21, 2013 at 12:22 PM
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i don't have an opinion really but that video is hilarious!

Snapdragon88
by Platinum Member on Oct. 21, 2013 at 12:24 PM
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A SIX year old throwing a tantrum??? Really? I'd laugh at my 5 yr old for trying to pull that crap. Ridiculous.
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