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My Confession? I Slept with my brother for years and I don't see the big deal...

Ok, I really want to know how it is so cruel for opposite sex children to share a room, especially when they are babies. My cousin is pregnant and having a boy. She also has a daughter, who is two. She is currently living with her mother (temporarily due to an unexpected financial crisis) and she is going to have to put the baby in the room with her daughter. Her mother (my aunt) is making a big deal about how that is cruelty and she won't have it in her house. She says that they boy will be trying to invade his sister's privacy and will peek at her while she's changing. Wtf? He is at least 7 years away from even noticing that there is difference between girls and boys. She says it is perverted. I think she is stupid.

When I was a kid, we had a three bedroom house. My older brother was 5 years older. His bedroom was on the other side of the house. My room was across from my parents' room because I was younger and they wanted to be able to listen out for me. When I was 3, my younger brother was born. They couldn't put the baby on the other side of the house and expect the 8 year old to get up with him. They couldn't move the 8 year old and put the 3 year old on the other side of the house where they couldn't hear her incase of an emergency. They made the logical choice and put the baby in with me, when he was old enough. I loved having my little brother in the room with me and we grew up very close. When I was five and he was two, we moved to a bigger house with four bedrooms, all located conviently close to my parents' bedroom. Benny started getting out of his bed and sneaking into mine because he missed me. He slept in my bed for another six months. I don't see how that was abusive or cruel. I changed in the bathroom and he never invaded my privacy or peeked at me when I was getting dressed (not until we were much older but we were in seperate rooms by then and I kicked his ass once and that pretty much ended it). When my parents went through a rough patch in their marriage and were fighting a lot, both of us ended up in my older brother's bed a lot. Nothing inappropriate ever happened. We are now 21, 24 and 29 and we are still very close.

Seriously, what is the big deal?

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by on Oct. 21, 2013 at 4:08 PM
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by on Oct. 21, 2013 at 4:25 PM
I don't get it either. My brother and I shared a room from when I was 15 to when I moved out at 18, he was 9 - 12. Hell even we went over to my cousin's house, I had to share a room with three boys every time we had a sleep over. I was family, I was gross to them lol.
by on Oct. 21, 2013 at 4:25 PM

My boys have their own rooms, but the toddler usually sleeps in his brother's room.

by Stacey on Oct. 21, 2013 at 4:26 PM

 There is nothing wrong with it if you have to. And it's not illegal like many people on here say it is.

by Raye on Oct. 21, 2013 at 4:26 PM
I don't see the big deal either. Sometimes, you have to make do with what you have. If they were older, close to pre teens, then yes, I'd say they needed their own rooms.

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by Ruby Member on Oct. 21, 2013 at 4:26 PM
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It wasn't a big deal in your situation, but you all had your own rooms once you got older. That gave you all the option to have privacy when you wanted it.  Room sharing between opposite sex siblings becomes a problem when they get old enough that one or both are uncomfortable with it, and they continue to be forced to share.  I'm not a big fan of room sharing though unless its by their choice, though I don't think it harms them either.  It's just nice for kids to have their own space. 

by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 21, 2013 at 4:28 PM
I agree with you. No big deal.
by Gold Member on Oct. 21, 2013 at 4:28 PM
Hy kids are 3 and one opposite sex and share the room.
by on Oct. 21, 2013 at 4:29 PM

OMG THIS!! I totally thought that's what you meant too.

Quoting Anonymous:

Wow I seriously thought you meant "sleeping "with your brother. I don't really see the big deal with it though

by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 21, 2013 at 4:30 PM

Your aunt is senile. 

by on Oct. 21, 2013 at 4:33 PM

We have two cutel 2 bedroom houses on one lot. We could have a kids house and an adult house. Everyone would have their own room. Instead we choose to live in the back house (much more quite) and store all the excess clothes/toys in the house downstairs. That means the kids sleep in one room. It works for our family for now. We do plan on added a second story though after the baby gets here. 

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