The post about corporal punishment suprised me. The responses of the number of people who spank their kid suprised me I have lost my temper a couple time and hit my child but it has been years and I do not believe in it. I think it sends the message that hitting is an acceptable way to solve problems. I try not to yell also. Of course I am not always successful and my husband disagrees but the calmer I stay the happier I am. Has anyone read Peaceful Parents Happy Children by Laura Markeim (i think thats her name) Not saying my way is superior I was just suprised.