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Will you tell your daughter the truth?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
About sex?

My parents told me that you can get pregnant after having sex one time. Although that is true the truth is you will only have a 24 hour window to actually get pregnant once a month. So what about all the other days in the month?

Will you tell your daughter the truth about a women's body and that actually knowing your cycles and knowing about that window? I honestly didn't learn about that until after my kids were born.

I want to tell my daughter the complete truth so she is truly aware of her own body. And maybe even plan accordingly before she has sex and avoid those certain days.


What is the fertile window?

The fertile window is made up of the days in the menstrual cycle where pregnancy is possible. The length of the fertile window has been determined by documenting the farthest away from ovulation that intercourse can result in conception. To determine the length of the fertile window and the probability of pregnancy relative to ovulation we need to know the maximum lifespan of the male sperm in the female reproductive tract. While the human ovum has a lifespan that is likely not more than 24 hours, making conception highly unlikely after the day of ovulation, the lifespan of the sperm is potentially longer and more variable.


I'm so surprised by how many women in here actually don't know the true facts of there own body. It's really sad.
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 22, 2013 at 11:11 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 34 on Oct. 29, 2013 at 2:43 PM

True facts include imperfect timing...

As regular as a woman's body might be, it takes only one month where it can spontaniously go "off schedule" and she could be pregnant.

abifasc
by Silver Member on Oct. 29, 2013 at 2:45 PM
Yes I'll tell her. Except she could get pregnant any time she has sex. It's definitely not a 24 hour window.
Not_A_Native
by Ruby Member on Oct. 29, 2013 at 2:47 PM

Of course they learned this - it's biology.

However - not everyone has "normal" cycles.  Mine were always all over the place.  They would range from 21 days to 40  days - all of which were "normal" for me.  Actually pinpointing ovulation would have been next to impossible.  Sometimes I'd miss cycles completely.

friendlymom5
by Silver Member on Oct. 29, 2013 at 2:48 PM
I have told them the truth.
CelestialSong
by on Oct. 29, 2013 at 2:52 PM
Yes I will tell her the truth - that sex at any time could result in pregnancy. Cycles aren't always predictable, especially when you're young, and sperm can survive for days. I will also tell her that protection fails, so even if she thinks she is being safe by using a condom/BC and it's a time when she doesn't think she is ovulating, it could still happen.
notjstasocermom
by Emerald Member on Oct. 29, 2013 at 3:00 PM

LMAO @ 24 hrs.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 29, 2013 at 9:02 PM
I was ttc for over a year and I'm sorry to tell you but you just don't know how to properly research. There is in fact a 24 hour window for the sperm to reach the egg. In talking about the egg...not the sperm.

Quoting MJ09:

 I have been doing a lot of research as I am trying to get pregnant, and there is a 6 day window in which you can get pregnant for most people with regular cycles. That is a fact! 24 hours is BS, do your research before you post "facts"




Quoting Anonymous:

It is not a theory it's a fact.


Quoting MJ09:


I will definately tell my daughter the truth, the whole truth. Which will NOT include some 24 hour window theory, because I hope you know thats not true!!




 

LilliesValley
by on Oct. 29, 2013 at 9:05 PM

yeah girls need to be more chancey with getting pregnant and think the odds are in their favor not to bc the teen pregnancy rate is so low....eye roll with laced sarcasm.

TammyKEJ
by Silver Member on Oct. 29, 2013 at 9:08 PM

you again? how many times are you going to post this?

xElizabethx
by Silver Member on Oct. 30, 2013 at 12:51 AM
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Telling your DD the whole story is a good idea but I don't think you should tell her what you posted in your OP. Women do get pregnant outside of the window you described. Teen girls and even young women can have irregular cycles, which are hard to track and make things like ovulation even harder to follow. Also, very thin and overweight women can have weird cycles. There are medications and health conditions that impact it as well. Educating her is important but please don't let a teen think that she can avoid getting pregnant as long as she doesn't have sex that "one" day a month.

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