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Will you tell your daughter the truth?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
About sex?

My parents told me that you can get pregnant after having sex one time. Although that is true the truth is you will only have a 24 hour window to actually get pregnant once a month. So what about all the other days in the month?

Will you tell your daughter the truth about a women's body and that actually knowing your cycles and knowing about that window? I honestly didn't learn about that until after my kids were born.

I want to tell my daughter the complete truth so she is truly aware of her own body. And maybe even plan accordingly before she has sex and avoid those certain days.


What is the fertile window?

The fertile window is made up of the days in the menstrual cycle where pregnancy is possible. The length of the fertile window has been determined by documenting the farthest away from ovulation that intercourse can result in conception. To determine the length of the fertile window and the probability of pregnancy relative to ovulation we need to know the maximum lifespan of the male sperm in the female reproductive tract. While the human ovum has a lifespan that is likely not more than 24 hours, making conception highly unlikely after the day of ovulation, the lifespan of the sperm is potentially longer and more variable.


I'm so surprised by how many women in here actually don't know the true facts of there own body. It's really sad.
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 22, 2013 at 11:11 PM
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inspain
by Platinum Member on Oct. 22, 2013 at 11:26 PM

Of course I'll tell her the truth.  Why tell her anything else?  

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 22, 2013 at 11:26 PM
Although as parents we all want out kids to wait and the truth is there no way we can actually prevent that. All we can do is educate.

Telling our kids having sex will end is pregnancy still doesn't stop them. But teaching the science on it may help possible pregnancy. Kwim?

Quoting Anonymous:

Yeah. However the real truth is don't be having sex unless you're ready for the possible consequences. The science is fine but I don't want my kid having sex too young either.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Oct. 22, 2013 at 11:26 PM
I had a very unwanted pregnancy because I didn't know my cycle wasn't regular. Good thoughts mama.


Quoting ELKmountain.mom:

Yes, I will explain to my daughter. Part of the would include the fact that sperm lives for 5ish days inside the body so you can get pregnant even if you didn't have sex when you ovulated. Its not just 24 hours. She will also need to know that unless she is regular at a young age and able to personally track her cycle (not an app) then she will need to always use protection and understand that isn't even 100%.


 What your mother said was more true than not espcially for a young person who isn't able to track her unpredicatable cycle or isn't mature enough to do it correctly.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 14 on Oct. 22, 2013 at 11:26 PM
Oh thank god! I thought I had my facts wrong again. I was trying to remember 8th grade health class..at my age, it was taking a lot of effort.


Quoting Anonymous:

24hrs... This is not true.

graybealgirl
by Platinum Member on Oct. 22, 2013 at 11:26 PM
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Quoting keisha613:

I will tell her she can get pregnant any time she has sex, which is the truth.

homeschoolmom9
by on Oct. 22, 2013 at 11:27 PM
There is a few days a month that you can get pregnant
kris0921
by on Oct. 22, 2013 at 11:27 PM
I will tell them both everything. We are open about sex in our house.
MJ09
by on Oct. 22, 2013 at 11:27 PM

I will definately tell my daughter the truth, the whole truth. Which will NOT include some 24 hour window theory, because I hope you know thats not true!!

thejodigirl
by Platinum Member on Oct. 22, 2013 at 11:27 PM
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Why did you perceive it as rude? In your original post you talked about how only  24 hour window is when pregnanc can occur. You left out the part that sperm can live in the body for 4 days or more- 

Quoting Anonymous:

What is the fertile window?

The fertile window is made up of the days in the menstrual cycle where pregnancy is possible. The length of the fertile window has been determined by documenting the farthest away from ovulation that intercourse can result in conception. To determine the length of the fertile window and the probability of pregnancy relative to ovulation we need to know the maximum lifespan of the male sperm in the female reproductive tract. While the human ovum has a lifespan that is likely not more than 24 hours, making conception highly unlikely after the day of ovulation, the lifespan of the sperm is potentially longer and more variable.

I actually have educated myself thank you since I tried to conceive for over a year.

Rude much?

Quoting thejodigirl:

Oh. my. gosh. Please educate yourself before you do any "teaching"



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 22, 2013 at 11:28 PM
I'm really happy to hear they are offering sex ed still in my district that haven't had that in years.

Quoting Anonymous:

I dont have to, thanks to health class in school and she doesn't ask questions. I did try talkingto her about it, but she didn't want to, she just says learning it in health class is enough for her.
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