My stepkids' birthmom. They are 4 and 3. The state (CPS) is terminating her rights in June (or trying to, it shouldn't be too hard.)
that would make them legally free for a stepparent adoption.
What would you do? Would you adopt your stepkids in this situation? Or wait until they are older? Or not at all?
DH and I have been married for over a year, have another child together, I've been in the kids' lives since they were 2 and 1.
DSD has been calling me Mama for the past 6 months. (Same as what DD calls me)
DSS does not, and asks for Mommy frequently.
They haven't seen birth mom in 2 months, she just doesn't show up to visits. She didn't show up to the last court day. CPS is still involved with her, she refuses to let CPS do home visits. She's supposed to be on supervised weekly visits with the kids, but she hasn't shown up to the last 8 visits.
So what would you do?
ETA: I went through the date book and added up the amount of time they've seen her.
Since January, they've seen her a grand total of 9 hours. This is being offered/allowed one hour per week supervised with CPS. CPS is in charge of the visitation,not us. We bring them to the visitation center like we are required to, but she doesn't show most of the time.
Jan-4 hours (Once a week for one hour, all 4 weeks)
April-2 hours (Once a week for one hour, 2 weeks out of April)
July-3 hours (Once a week for one hour, 3 weeks out of July)