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Alright ladies, I want to take on a few questions... I have my 4 year BA of psychology, and I'm now getting my masters in marriage and family therapy. 

I soon want to open up my own clinic, please, let me know if you need any advice or want to ask me a question and see if I can help!

Thanks :D Hope I can help some of you.. 

Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 23, 2013 at 11:08 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 24, 2013 at 12:37 AM

First of all, I'm really sorry you had to go through this. 

From the info you gave me, yes I do think that you should leave. He seems like he belittles you quite a bit, and isn't respectful of yours or the kids needs. He also sounds very controlling. But, that is just my opinion from the info you gave me.  

Are you ready to leave tho? Like 110%, or is a part of you still wanting to work through this? 

Quoting Anonymous:

Should I leave my DH? We've been together for almost 6 years and have children together. I am currently a SAHM. He is mean to me on a daily basis, calls me names every day . He later apologizes, but he still continues to do it.

Also, he does this in front of our children. He is rarely, if ever, home. Not cheating, but always working on his stupid projects. He gets money and blows it before paying for diapers or bills. He never helps with our children, and I'm forced to run around constantly on my own.

When, if for any reason he DOES watch our children, he lays on the couch and puts a movie on in their room. He doesn't really interact with them, period. He also told me while I was pregnant he didn't want the baby (our 3rd) and came close to refusing to sign the birth certificate (and, no, I didn't cheat. Fact is, he's just an asshole...)

If you're advice is to leave, how in the living hell do I get the strength? He says he'll trash the car if I take it and he refuses to leave our home when I've told him it was over. He Just. Won't. Leave.



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 24, 2013 at 12:42 AM

It really depends on where you live. I haven't really looked into research jobs, but my favourite site to look for jobs is www.indeed.com 

I'm in Canada, and around where I live, there are many jobs that pay anywhere from $19-$35 per hour with a BA.

With a Masters, you can do many things. And of course, with a PHD/psyD you can do a lot more! It really depends on exactly what he wants to do..


Quoting Retrokitty:

DF is almost done his BA in psychology. Is there many jobs for BAs he wants to be a researcher but knows he needs at least a PHD to do anything important.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Oct. 24, 2013 at 12:42 AM

I've been trying for almost three years to fix this. Some stupid part of me insists on trying, for the kids, but I know deep down I am doing more damage to them. In the end, I truly feel like us splitting up will be for the best.

But I'm terrified of doing it alone. And I've tried kicking him out. He won't leave. I've been thinking of packing up his belongings and dropping them off at his parent's house. I thought that might be just the kick in the butt he needs. I'm just straight up scared.

I almost feel like I still love him, but I can't even tell anymore. Sorry if I'm whining. I've been very confused about this for a long time.

Quoting Anonymous:

First of all, I'm really sorry you had to go through this. 

From the info you gave me, yes I do think that you should leave. He seems like he belittles you quite a bit, and isn't respectful of yours or the kids needs. He also sounds very controlling. But, that is just my opinion from the info you gave me.  

Are you ready to leave tho? Like 110%, or is a part of you still wanting to work through this? 

Quoting Anonymous:

Should I leave my DH? We've been together for almost 6 years and have children together. I am currently a SAHM. He is mean to me on a daily basis, calls me names every day . He later apologizes, but he still continues to do it.

Also, he does this in front of our children. He is rarely, if ever, home. Not cheating, but always working on his stupid projects. He gets money and blows it before paying for diapers or bills. He never helps with our children, and I'm forced to run around constantly on my own.

When, if for any reason he DOES watch our children, he lays on the couch and puts a movie on in their room. He doesn't really interact with them, period. He also told me while I was pregnant he didn't want the baby (our 3rd) and came close to refusing to sign the birth certificate (and, no, I didn't cheat. Fact is, he's just an asshole...)

If you're advice is to leave, how in the living hell do I get the strength? He says he'll trash the car if I take it and he refuses to leave our home when I've told him it was over. He Just. Won't. Leave.




Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Oct. 24, 2013 at 12:43 AM

 please help me .....................

 

how can i convince my dh to see a therapist and get meds?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 24, 2013 at 12:50 AM


Ok, well, a lot of kids will talk about things that we might think is "weird", but remember, they have a HUGE imagination. They've hardly seen the outside world, and who knows what they could be thinking. But, like his psychologist said, you have to monitor it. You should ask him questions about these "bugs" and why he talks in different voices. Get down on his level and just talk to him. Try and understand exactly what he is saying/what he's going through. I know that it's hard, but it's the only way to know exactly what is going on in his mind. 



Quoting stephensmommy06:

Well the whole bipolar thing comes with a slew of abnormal behaviors... he talks about bugs controlling his brain...or he talks in a different voice...he psych knows about these behaviors and said to monitor them


Quoting Anonymous:

What kinds of things do you see him doing, that don't seem "normal"



Quoting stephensmommy06:

My son is bipolar (7)but I think he's got schizophrenic tendencies...how can I tell what's "normal" for his age and what's not...(and yes I will discuss with his current psych)







stephensmommy06
by on Oct. 24, 2013 at 12:51 AM
He sees a psychiatrist NOT a psychologist :)


Quoting Anonymous:


Ok, well, a lot of kids will talk about things that we might think is "weird", but remember, they have a HUGE imagination. They've hardly seen the outside world, and who knows what they could be thinking. But, like his psychologist said, you have to monitor it. You should ask him questions about these "bugs" and why he talks in different voices. Get down on his level and just talk to him. Try and understand exactly what he is saying/what he's going through. I know that it's hard, but it's the only way to know exactly what is going on in his mind. 




Quoting stephensmommy06:

Well the whole bipolar thing comes with a slew of abnormal behaviors... he talks about bugs controlling his brain...or he talks in a different voice...he psych knows about these behaviors and said to monitor them





Quoting Anonymous:

What kinds of things do you see him doing, that don't seem "normal"




Quoting stephensmommy06:

My son is bipolar (7)but I think he's got schizophrenic tendencies...how can I tell what's "normal" for his age and what's not...(and yes I will discuss with his current psych)











Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 24, 2013 at 12:52 AM

First off, why do you think he needs to see someone and get meds?


Quoting Anonymous:

 please help me .....................

 

how can i convince my dh to see a therapist and get meds?



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 24, 2013 at 12:53 AM

Ok, sorry.


Quoting stephensmommy06:

He sees a psychiatrist NOT a psychologist :)


Quoting Anonymous:


Ok, well, a lot of kids will talk about things that we might think is "weird", but remember, they have a HUGE imagination. They've hardly seen the outside world, and who knows what they could be thinking. But, like his psychologist said, you have to monitor it. You should ask him questions about these "bugs" and why he talks in different voices. Get down on his level and just talk to him. Try and understand exactly what he is saying/what he's going through. I know that it's hard, but it's the only way to know exactly what is going on in his mind. 




Quoting stephensmommy06:

Well the whole bipolar thing comes with a slew of abnormal behaviors... he talks about bugs controlling his brain...or he talks in a different voice...he psych knows about these behaviors and said to monitor them





Quoting Anonymous:

What kinds of things do you see him doing, that don't seem "normal"




Quoting stephensmommy06:

My son is bipolar (7)but I think he's got schizophrenic tendencies...how can I tell what's "normal" for his age and what's not...(and yes I will discuss with his current psych)













Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Oct. 24, 2013 at 12:56 AM

 i am pretty sure he killed his dog. He is always up and down with me. One moment he is sooo crazy nice and AMAZING... few hours later or a day later he will be so horrible all i can do is cry and hate myself.......... I need to convince him to see a theorist or something... I am so exhausted and i am scared. I am tired of taking all of his crazy mood swings and going on this emotional rolorcoster...

Quoting Anonymous:existed

First off, why do you think he needs to see someone and get meds?

 

Quoting Anonymous:

 please help me .....................

 

how can i convince my dh to see a therapist and get meds?

 

 

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Oct. 24, 2013 at 12:56 AM
Ok my turn please:)
My husband is getting upset with me b/c he thinks I'm ignoring him at night, is he right?
This has happened enough to make us argue a couple day's at a time.
I've been on a med that makes it difficult to go to the restroom(tmi) I know. So I've been taking something at night to fix this:) which means I must run to the girl's room at anytime. So lastnight I was in the bathroom a half hr he says. He thought he heard me talking on the phone in private on the other end of the house. I was not talking on my phone at all to anyone. I came back to our room when I was done and knew he might be upset because I was in bathroom to long. Sure enough, and because he thought I was talking privately also. So instead of having an argument about nothing, I decided not to talk. Something I do when I see an argument forming.
I think he's jealous or something or doesn't trust me. He often thinks I'm ignoring him when he doesn't have my full undivided attention while we're both in the house.....
Is it me?
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