I know she got an abortion..but I found out by accident. HUGE UPDATE!!!
My son just got an iPhone. Somehow his iMessages are going through my computer. Out of nowhere, his conversation with his girlfriend started coming in. She got an abortion today. They are 16. I had no idea. He has been allowed to go to her house. I thought her parents were just as vigilant as we were about their time together. I'm not sure how to feel about this. Or what to do. Do I tell him I know? Do I tell my husband? I'm so sad. I'm mourning the loss of the baby. I'm mourning the loss of my son's innocence. I'm mad. I'm so disappointed in him. I thought we had a better relationship. We have talked about this so much. Any advice?
Well, she didn't get an abortion. She is pregnant. Two months. We are in shock and devastated. I found out by my daughter. Some girl asked her about it at my son's football game. She of course asked me how I would feel if DS had a baby. I asked him about it. He was stunned I knew. I told my husband the next day. We have gone through so many emotions. Disppointed, sad, mad, etc. We met with her parents. They are weirdly calm. They say we can be as involved as we want. I don't know how to feel. I had so many talks with my son about sex. We had a baby last November. A huge surprise. I used every opportunity to remind him this is what happens when you have unprotected sex. I am always a second away from a panic attack. Her parents admitted they knew when it happened. They went away for the night. Told their daughter he could come over. They thought it would be ok because a few older people were in the house.