The last straw was seeing my toddler son act just like his dad, and realizing I didn't want him to think it was OK to treat a woman like his dad did, and I didn't want my daughter to think it was ok for a man to treat her the way her dad treated me. No issues with the divorce.
When I told DH I felt like his roommate and he gave exactly 0 fucks, so I cheated and he found out. Funny how he started to care then. We both decided on a divorce and used the same lawyer. Never went a day in court. We agreed I'd have primary custody of dd and we each had a vehicle and agreed on who'd get what belongings.
The last straw for me was finding out my ex was seeing another woman. I couldn't abide the idea of being with someone who lied to me so much.
He was physically and emotionally abusive towards me the whole time we were married (15 months). The final straw was when he came home and threatened to hurt our newborn because he was crying. I waited till he went to work the next day..packed a bag for me and my son and went to my parents' home. We went to court--had a judge that thought men were mistreated---and was willing to give him anything he wanted. He told the judge I was a good mother so I got physical custody and he got visitation rights. Child support was a joke---he only paid when he got papers from the court saying I was taking him to court for nonpayment--it was all a big joke to him. He only got what he had before we got married and a few items his family had bought at our wedding shower---everything else was mine before we got married. After court when our divorce was finalized, I went out to lunch to celebrate being out of a horrible marriage.
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