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DH is a P*****

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

Okay the title is mean. I only put it to get your attention. But it is kind of true.


So, I am the girl who is torn between her husband and her daughter's father. And I've been texting and calling my daughter's father not about my daughter.

It may seem like I am a troll because of the way I word things or my e-tone but I am not. This is what I am really going through.

Let me just explain something so you can better understand.

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My husband and I have been together since our first year of highschool on and off. I knew him even before I knew my daughter's father. But he has always been the back up plan and he accepts that from me. I left him for so many men and whenever it didn't work out, I would go back to him. Time and time again. Over and over. I fell in love with him for loving me no matter what crap I pulled.

But I look down at him for not having a back bone. I look down at him for accepting my bullshit. After all the times he took me back, it is extremely hard for me to take him seriously. He is such a pushover but I LOVE him for loving me and that is the only reason. I feel like I made the biggest mistake marrying him becuase now I can't easily leave him. I thought he was the one which is why I married him until I realized I ONLY loved him because he loved me unconditonally. But he has no self esteem.

My daughters father however, I lost my virginty to him. I love him because of the way he makes me feel. I love him because he accepts me for who I am. He never forces me into doing anything I don't want to do unlike me husband who is trying to mold me into this housewife. I love him because he has a great sense of humor. I love him because he is a great father. I love him because the sex was SO good. I can go on and on but the point is. I love him for more than JUST loving me.

I married my husband as a last resort almost. I married him because it was easy. I married him  because I setteld. And now I regret it.

I don't want to leave him because I know it will crush him. That and he has threatened to try his hardest to make sure I lose everything, including my kids if we seperated. I feel stuck. I am not happy. I don't know what to do.




Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 24, 2013 at 2:33 PM
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2pink1blue
by Silver Member on Oct. 24, 2013 at 2:42 PM

For most gals like you, the grass is always greener on the otherside, regardless of which side you happen to be on.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 24, 2013 at 2:42 PM

How am I a user and a cheater?


Quoting kjfamily:

You don't deserve either guy. You are a user and cheater.



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 24, 2013 at 2:43 PM

He is a push over and lets you walk all over him and bounce in and out of his life and yet he is threatening to take everything, including the kids if you leave him. That doesn't sound right. I call bullshit. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 24, 2013 at 2:43 PM

That doesn't make sense. I should lose everything because I am confused?


Quoting grey7399:

You're an ass.


You should lose everything because you continually show the inability to make good decisions.



LilliesValley
by Ruby Member on Oct. 24, 2013 at 2:43 PM
Time to divorce so you both can move on. Easiest way to uncomplicate your life and the most fair thing for your dh. Then don't ever be pathetic and go back to him bc that just makes you more sad and pathetic than him.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 24, 2013 at 2:44 PM
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You're dh is a doormat and lacks self esteem. Your bd isn't forcing you to be a housewife because he knows you're a whore. Ugh, debating choosing dick over your kids disgusting. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 24, 2013 at 2:46 PM

I guess you're right. With him, I look at him as a ticking time bomb. That's why I think this will be the last straw with him and I'm scared. And yes, I have been single many times.


Quoting TexasGirl90:

He doesn't sound like a total push over.. especially since he's telling you that you'll be left with nothing and he's trying to mold you into a housewife and "forcing you to do things you don't want to do." I don't think you love either of these men. And I don't think you love yourself. Have you ever been single? No man? I think you should try that if you ARE going to leave your husband. Personally, I think you sound immature. And no man deserves to be drug though the emotional things you're trying to work out here. You probably don't love your daughter's father in the way you think you do. You'll date him, and the very next man you date will make you "realize" that you only "loved" him because you lost your virginity to him and because he was your daughter's father. You need to mature emotionally. You need to find out who you are, and stop identifying yourself with whoever you happen to be dating at the time.



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Oct. 24, 2013 at 2:47 PM

How am I a whore?


Quoting Anonymous:

You're dh is a doormat and lacks self esteem. Your bd isn't forcing you to be a housewife because he knows you're a whore. Ugh, debating choosing dick over your kids disgusting. 



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Oct. 24, 2013 at 2:47 PM
Yea I got nothing for you. You lost my respect when you said you only love your dh because he loves you. Get some help.
AnHpuresugar
by Ruby Member on Oct. 24, 2013 at 2:48 PM
Yes. If you are honest and willing to be accountable for your choices and work on yourself. You can't just sit there and expect them to fix everything. It is actually up to you to do some work.


Quoting Anonymous:

I used to go to a therapist every week following my fathers death when I Was 12. It helped so maybe I should. You really think this is an issue a therapist can help me with?



Quoting AnHpuresugar:

So sad. Go to therapy. You have convinced yourself that your father's daughter is all that and a bag of chips. If you were with him, the reality of who he really is would smack you in the face.



Your husband deserves to be with someone that wants to be WITH HIM. You have issues and have decided that it is because of someone else instead of finding out what the hell is going on with you.



The grass is not always greener. Make an appointment with a decent therapist, ASAP.





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