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I can't decide if I should pull him out.

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 I got my son into cubscouts.  He's six so he's a Tiger Cub.  He doesn't seem too interested in baseball, basketball, football etc. but I know it's important that he be in some kind of extra curricular activity.  I figured Cubscouts because it would help socialize him and build his self confidence.  Well, he hates it.  He doesn't like the meetings, complains and whines when we have "homework" to do, and to be honest, I don't like it too much either.  I just don't want to pull him out too early and teach him that it's okay to just give up.  He's gone to about four or five meetings now, all of which he says are boring.  I try to stay positive about it and explain how you have to do work before the fun things like field trips and stuff, but he's just not feeling it. 

I'm thinking about putting him into a mixed martial arts class.  He went to an open house thing with a friend of his one night and he loved it.  I think I'm going to call today and get some details and price it out.  Do you think I'm bailing too early on Cubscouts?

by on Oct. 28, 2013 at 1:39 PM
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prdmama1154
by on Oct. 28, 2013 at 1:48 PM
I hope it holds his interest and motivates him more than cubscouts does.
Quoting OwlNuggets:

Nah, you clearly know whether this is a long haul interest...sounds like it won't be.

Martial arts are amazing; I was enrolled in TKD when I was 12 and though I've changed arts, it's still a really important thing in my life.

And classes? NEVER boring.

JackieGirl007
by Ruby Member on Oct. 28, 2013 at 1:48 PM
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Don't force him. My son tried it and didn't like it either. All I ask is that they TRY new things, but I won't force them to continue.

OwlNuggets
by HAIL NUGGY! on Oct. 28, 2013 at 1:49 PM

There's belts to earn, tournaments to pursue, trophies to get, forms to perfect, sparring partners to best...Oh yes. :)

Quoting prdmama1154:

I hope it holds his interest and motivates him more than cubscouts does.
Quoting OwlNuggets:

Nah, you clearly know whether this is a long haul interest...sounds like it won't be.

Martial arts are amazing; I was enrolled in TKD when I was 12 and though I've changed arts, it's still a really important thing in my life.

And classes? NEVER boring.




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Bianca008
by Bronze Member on Oct. 28, 2013 at 1:49 PM

Pull him out, life is too short to be miserable

tcallisto
by on Oct. 28, 2013 at 1:50 PM

 He was very bored... as was I.  Didn't help the den moher was so busy screaming at her child because he didn't even like it.  I told the den mother that he had another activity and due to the conflict we had to choose which one he was more interested in.  My son is now in high school and doesn't have any regrets.

Quoting prdmama1154:

 Yours was bored too?  Glad to know my son isn't the only one.  I put in him there because I wanted him to have a little more male interaction since it's mostly just him and I, but all the den leaders are moms.  Women actually run the whole show!  Which is fine, but it just doesn't hold his interest at all and I don't want to force it.

Now, how do I "break up" with cubscouts?

Quoting tcallisto:

If he doesn't like it, and you have another activty that draws him, then switch it.  My son was in cub scouts for a brief time and he was super bored with it, so I was glad when he said he wanted to stop going.  Martial Arts sounds like a good activity!

 


 

prdmama1154
by on Oct. 28, 2013 at 1:51 PM

 There's always girl scouts!!  Haha....but seriously.  For a while I couldn't decide if it was just because I didn't like it or if it was really something he didn't like.  We skipped selling popcorn in front of the grocery store the this past Sunday.  I think that's the answer I needed.  Now, if it was an activity that he loved, I wouldn't care if it took up every single second of my life and I would dedicate myself to it.  But he just whines and whines when it comes to the scouts.

Quoting Anonymous:

Nope! Not at all! I personally, cannot STAND scouts! I think it is SO STUPID!! Of course, I end up with 4 boys and one girl!! My boys have ALL LOVED scouts-do not ask me why! I told DH a LONG time ago that if they are going to be in scouts, he will be the one to be sure they do the crap in the book to get their badges. I refuse to go to any of their stupid scouting activities or dinners etc! They are having a stupid thing about scouting this coming week for the families and I am not going! I remember when my mom forced me to stay in activities I did not want to stay in as a kid! I HATED that she made me go!! I always said if my kids don't like an activity after the 3rd time they went, I would not force them to go a 4th time. I think the martial arts sounds way more fun than stupid scouting!! I am so glad we are down to our last 2 boys who are of scouting age! I was even happier when I found out DD was a GIRL at my 20-week ultrasound! I was like HOOOORAY!!!! NO MORE DAMN IDIOTIC scouts!! WOO!! HOO!! Good luck!!

 

ambrossious2000
by Silver Member on Oct. 28, 2013 at 1:53 PM
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Hi, I am a cubmaser for my local cubscouts. I just wantd to say, If you are not happy with how it is going in your sons den, you can get involved, you can help be an assistant den leader. Talk to his den leader, tell him or her about how you don't think your son is having fun. That way they can get him more involved, you can always go the committee meetings and put your input their as well. Cub scouts is family based their is so much you can do as a parent in cubscouts, that's why I love it so much. Help plan den outings and the next den craft or game. Let me know what you think and I will be happy to help anyway I can.

prdmama1154
by on Oct. 28, 2013 at 1:53 PM

 That's what I'm trying to avoid.

Quoting Anonymous:

LOL.  I've never actually heard of a parent who wishes to instill in their 6 year old that giving up is good.

Mind=blown

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 28, 2013 at 1:54 PM
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Then he needs to finish this school year as a boy scout and not sign up next year.


Quoting prdmama1154:

 That's what I'm trying to avoid.

Quoting Anonymous:

LOL.  I've never actually heard of a parent who wishes to instill in their 6 year old that giving up is good.

Mind=blown

 



BeautyFull
by Silver Member on Oct. 28, 2013 at 1:55 PM
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I would pull him out if it was my kid. As parents we should find what interest our kids and build from there. You son clear hates it so it is a waste of time. I have 2 sons and they both do separate activities based on what they like. I wish they would do the same thing but they are separate individuals.
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